He pūʻulu hoa like ko kaʻu kāne male mai ka wā kamaliʻi mai, a like like lākou a pau. He mea maikaʻi loa ka loaʻa ʻana o kekahi i kekahi no ke kākoʻo, akā i kēia mau lā ua lohi loa ʻo ia me lākou. Hele ʻo ia i nā ahiahi Sābati, hoʻi pinepine i ka home i ka hola 3 a i ʻole 4. Ke noho ʻo ia me kāna mau hoaaloha, ʻike liʻiliʻi wau iā ia, a hoʻopau wau i ka inaina i kēia poʻe ma muli o ka hopena. He aha kaʻu e hana ai? Manaʻo wau e koho ana ʻo ia e ʻike i kāna mau hoaaloha ma luna oʻu, me he mea lā he hōʻole koʻikoʻi.
Paʻa ka poʻe i kēia mau lā, a maopopo iaʻu he mau pule paha nā mākua hana ʻelua kahi liʻiliʻi ka manawa e hoʻopili ai. Akā inā nalo pinepine ʻoe i ka pili pili pili i ka naʻau, a laila ke kumu o ka hopohopo.
Me kēlā me kēia hakakā e hoʻi hou ana, pono e hoʻoponopono ʻia ka pilikia ma kahi ala hou. ʻO koʻu manaʻo, ʻoiai he hakakā kēlā me kēia pule, ke hū nei kēia lua pele i ka wā hou. A ʻoiai wau e hoʻomaopopo nei i ke ʻano o ka puʻu ʻana i kona wā e hele ai ma ka puka, ʻaʻole paha ʻo ia ka manawa maikaʻi loa e kamaʻilio ai. E kali a hoʻopaʻa ʻia kou mau manaʻo no laila e hele mai ʻoe me ka ʻuhane palupalu a ʻaʻole ka hakakā.
ʻōlelo hoʻoulu lauoho no nā wahine
Aia nō ʻelua pilikia kaʻawale e pāʻani nei ma aneʻi. ʻO ka helu hoʻokahi, ʻaʻole ʻoe e loaʻa i ka manawa me ia e manaʻo pili a pili pono. ʻO ka helu ʻelua, ke nīnau nei ʻoe inā ua kūpaʻa ʻo ia a makemake ʻo ia e noho pū me ʻoe, a inā ʻoe e hele nei i kahi male maikaʻi.
ʻO ka pukana mua ka canary i loko o ka lua lanahu. No ke aha i manaʻo ʻole ai ʻo ia e ʻike pū kekahi iā ʻoe? Pono ʻoe e ʻike inā he hōʻailona hoʻopunipuni a i ʻole ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ka hoʻokō e pono ai ʻoe e palekana i kēia pilina. Akā, e noʻonoʻo kākou i ka mea maikaʻi loa mai ka wā e hele ai: pono ʻo ia i kahi kamaʻilio maikaʻi a paʻa-e pili ana i kou manaʻo i aloha ʻia.
E wehewehe i ke ʻano o ka manawa maikaʻi iā ʻoe
Pono ʻoe e kaʻana like i kāu kāne male me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ʻoiaʻiʻo. Akā inā ʻo ʻoe ke ʻano o ka wahine e manaʻo nei e hoʻokau mua kāna hoa iā ia, a laila pono ʻoe e haʻi i kēia iā ia ma ke ʻano palupalu, i ka wā o kahi kūkākūkā wela ʻole.
ʻOi loa inā he kanaka aloha ʻoe i ka manawa kūpono, a laila pono ʻoe e haʻi iā ia keia ʻO ke ʻano o kou manaʻo i ke aloha ʻia: Manaʻo wau i ka palekana i ko kāua pilina ke loaʻa ka manawa mau. Inā ʻaʻole kāua, nīnau wau inā aloha ʻoe iaʻu a ʻaʻole paha. Hiki iā mākou ke hana i kahi manawa i kēlā me kēia pule no mākou wale nō? He ʻōlelo aloha ʻokoʻa paha kāna a ʻaʻole maopopo iā ia kou pono no ia ʻano kūlike.
E kaʻana like i kāu mea i hōʻike mai ai iaʻu - pono ʻoe e hele i kēlā kakahiaka no ka hoʻohui hou ʻana, a ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o ka papa manawa like e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hele pū kekahi i kekahi. Mai haʻi aku iā ia ʻaʻole e ʻike i kāna mau hoaaloha. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻo ka inaina iā lākou ʻo ka huhū hewa ʻole - pili kēia iā ʻolua.
pehea e ulu ai nā kui lōʻihi
E hele mai me ka naau hamama. Inā ʻaʻole loli nā mea , alaila pono ʻoe e hana i kahi hana nui.
E hoʻopaʻa iā ia no kāna mau hana
Inā ʻaʻole e loli nā mea, pono ʻoe e haʻi i kāu kāne hoʻopaʻa ʻaʻole ʻoe i manaʻo i kāna kūpaʻa a ke kumu nei ʻoe e nīnau i kāna aloha. ʻAe, hopohopo paha ia, akā pono ʻo ia e ʻike he pilikia nui kēia iā ʻoe.
Eia hou, ʻaʻole ia nā hoaaloha - ʻo ka nele o ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i kāu mau pono, he mea pono ia i kekahi male.
kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo nani no ka ʻili ʻālohilohi
ʻO ka hope loa, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomau i ka hāʻawi ʻana i ke aloha i ka wā e maloʻo ai ka pūnāwai, a pono ʻo ia e ʻike e ʻimi nei ʻoe i kēlā mau ʻāpana wai hope loa. Inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻomaopopo i kēlā, a laila ʻaʻole paha ʻo ia i mākaukau no ke koʻikoʻi o kāu pilina.
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