Hiki iā mākou ke ʻae: Nui nā puke kōkua iā ʻoe iho, maikaʻi, cheesy. ʻIke ʻoe, he nui nā mantras hapalua a me nā ʻōlelo hoʻohiki o ka hauʻoli inā ʻoe puke pai . I mea e hoʻopau ai i nā quacks, ua hana mākou i kekahi noiʻi e ʻimi i nā puke kōkua pilikino 21 i kūpono maoli ka heluhelu ʻana, no laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomau i kāu ʻimi e lilo i mea maikaʻi.
PILI : HANA I KEIA 6 MAU MAU? ʻO ia ke ʻano he maikaʻi maoli ʻoe i ke ola
Amazonekahi. Pono paha ʻoe e kamaʻilio me kekahi: He Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed na Lori Gottlieb
Ke ʻike nei mākou i kēia puke ma nā wahi a pau mai ka wā i puka mai ai i ʻApelila 2019. ʻO ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻana i nā moʻolelo kōkua pilikino ʻo Gottlieb i ʻike i ke ʻano he lapaʻau ma L.A., ʻoiai ʻo ia e ʻike ana i kahi mea lapaʻau iā ia iho, ʻoiai ke hoʻokele nei i ka ʻeha puʻuwai. Aia mākou i loko.
elua. E HOLO I KA BOLA: E LOAA A'E MA KA HANA IMI NA TIFFANY DUFU
Ua hopohopo paha ʻoe i nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā e hoʻowalewale ʻia ʻoe e ʻōlelo wale e hoʻopale a lawe i kahi lā maʻi? Aia ʻo Tiffany Dufu ma laila—a mālama ʻo ia e hiki i nā wahine ke loaʻa i nā mea āpau (he ʻohana aloha, kahi hana mana kiʻekiʻe, kahi ʻaʻahu nani a me nā manawa hoʻomaha hoʻomaha) ma ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i ka pōleʻa ma nā mea a lākou e ʻike ʻole ai i ka leʻaleʻa. kokua i ko lakou kumu nui. No laila, e hoʻokuʻu i kēlā holoi lole ma ka papahele o ka lumi moe. He yoga koʻikoʻi kāu e hana ai.
3. E LOA! NA IYANLA VANZANT
ʻO kēia kumu aʻoaʻo ola ʻuhane i kākoʻo ʻia e Oprah e kōkua i ka poʻe makaʻu i pau i ke ola a me ka poʻe huhū i hoʻopaʻa ʻia i kā lākou huhū pono. He aha. Ina. ʻO ka. Pilikia. ʻO… ʻoe? ua nīnau ʻo ia, ʻo ia hoʻi, ʻo kā mākou ʻano, ʻaʻole nā kūlana, e hoʻoholo ai inā ola mākou i kahi ola hauʻoli a hoʻokō. Hoʻohana ʻo Vanzant i nā hoʻomaʻamaʻa noʻonoʻo noʻonoʻo, kahi hui o nā mea hana uhane a me ka ʻepekema o ka neuroplasticity, e hoʻopau i nā ʻano manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole a me ka ikaika o ka naʻau.
ʻEhā. KA HOOLOLI OLA O KA HAAWINA OLE IA F*CK NA SARAH KNIGHT
Ke hoʻopaʻa nei i ke poʻo inoa o ka smash-hit a Marie Kondo Ka Hoʻololi Ola o ka Hoʻomaʻemaʻe , ʻO ka puke a Knight e pili ana i ke akamai o ka mālama liʻiliʻi a me ka loaʻa hou aku. Hoʻopuka ʻo ia i nā lula no ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana iā ʻoe iho i nā kuleana i makemake ʻole ʻia me ka ʻole o ka hewa, nā ʻanuʻu no ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana i kou noʻonoʻo a me nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kou ikehu i nā mea pono maoli. ʻO ka Nānā Buke o New York Times Ua kapa ʻia ʻo ia ʻo ke kōkua ponoʻī e like me kahi mele parody Weird Al, a ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke ʻae hou aku.
5. KA MEA HANA PILIKIA: KA PALAPALA MAKA'U NA LUVVIE AJAYI JONES
Aia kahi manawa ikaika e ʻike ai ʻoe iā Ajayi Jones mai kāna Instagram akamai, kāna mua New York Times mea kūʻai maikaʻi loa a iā ia paha kamaʻilio TED kupaianaha . Hoʻohui i ka papa inoa: kāna puke hou, ʻOihana Hoʻopilikia: The Fear-Fighter Manual . 'Ōleloʻo Ajayi Jones,ʻO ia ka puke aʻu i manaʻo ai he 10 mau makahiki i hala aku nei i koʻu hopohopo e kapa iaʻu iho he mea kākau. ʻO ia ka puke aʻu e pono ai i kēia manawa. Makemake au e kākau i nā puke aʻu e makemake ai e heluhelu…a ʻike wau inā pono ia iaʻu, e loaʻa i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe ka waiwai i loko.
6. HOOLAHA HOOKO NA GABRIELLE BERNSTEIN
ʻO kēia alakaʻi a me ka mea haʻiʻōlelo hou kūʻai maikaʻi loa ʻo New Thought ua hele mai me kahi ʻano hana ʻeono e pili ana i ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā loiloi maikaʻi ʻole o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe (a me ʻoe iho) me kahi ʻano o ka Buddhist Lite ʻae. ʻO ka noʻonoʻo ʻana, kahi lāʻau lapaʻau i kapa ʻia ʻo Emotional Freedom Technique (kahi āu e kaomi ai i nā kiko ma kou kino e hoʻomaʻamaʻa hou iā ʻoe iho i ka noʻonoʻo maikaʻi) a me ka pule e hoʻohui i kahi ʻano hoʻomana ʻole, paʻakikī i ka wā mua akā i ka hopena o ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana iā ʻoe iho-ʻaʻole. pono nā kāleka hōʻaiʻē a i ʻole Chardonnay.
7. EIA OE: HE KAUA'S MANALA NO NA MANAO PILI NA JENNY LAWSON
Part therapy, part humor and part coloring book, Lawson (nāna i kākau i ka puke like hilarious Hauʻoli Huhū ) e huki i nā manaʻo o ka art therapy e kōkua i ka poʻe heluhelu e hoʻokō i ka hopohopo a me nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole. E like me kāna mau puke i hala, ua haʻi pololei ʻo Lawson e pili ana i kāna mau hakakā pilikino, a ma ka hana ʻana pēlā e hōʻoluʻolu ai ka mea heluhelu i ka hoʻolele ʻana i kāna mau ʻōhumu ponoʻī (eia, ma ke ʻano o nā papa inoa piha i ka blank a me nā kiʻi kiʻi ʻole i kekahi manawa).
8. KA HOAO ALOHA NA SHANNON KAISER
ʻAe, ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻoe e hana i kāu mau mea manaoia e hana e lilo i kanaka hauʻoli, olakino (Yoga! Noʻonoʻo! ʻAi i ka olakino!) i ka hauʻoli a me ka hoʻokō ʻole me ka hōʻino ʻole iā ia iho. (E hele i ka ʻauʻau ʻauʻau a hauʻoli ia, dammit.)
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9. KA OLIOLI O KA HANA AOLE NA RACHEL JONAT
Mea kākau o kahi kumuhana ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi mommy blog , Jonat maanei e hoolaha ana i ka mana o no. Paipai ʻo ia iā mākou a pau e ʻōlelo ʻole i nā kuleana pilikanaka, ʻaʻole i nā hana ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole nalo i ko mākou ola ponoʻī ma muli o ka hana mau.
Amazon10. ʻO Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear na Elizabeth Gilbert
Ua heluhelu mua ʻoe (a mahalo) Ai, pule, aloha , akau? ʻO Elizabeth Gilbert hou kēia e kiʻi ai. ʻO kēia manawa, ma mua o ka wehewehe ʻana i kāna huakaʻi ʻimi ʻuhane a puni ka honua, hāʻawi ʻo ia i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i ke ʻano o ke ola ʻana i kou ola noʻonoʻo, hoʻokō. Auwe. Manao Nui ʻo ia kekahi o nā kūkākūkā ʻoiaʻiʻo loa e pili ana i ke kaʻina hana hoʻomohala aʻu i heluhelu ai,' wahi a kekahi mea heluhelu. ʻO kāna ʻano no-BS e kōkua i ka hoʻopau ʻana i nā manaʻolana kūpono ʻole a me nā melodrama pono ʻole e pili ana i ka manaʻo o ka 'ola hoʻomohala.''
umikumākahi. NALOWALE ANO NA REBECCA SOFFER ME GABRIELLE BIRKNER
Manaʻo ʻo Soffer lāua ʻo Birkner iā lākou iho he poʻe loea i ka hoʻowahāwahā ʻana i ke kaumaha. (Ua nalo koke ʻo Soffer i kona mau mākua ʻelua i kona mau makahiki he 30 a ua pepehi ʻia ka makuakāne a me ka makuahine hānai o Birkner i ka makahiki 24.) ʻO lāua ʻelua ka mea nāna i hana i kahi pūnaewele. ʻO ka New York Times Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia e wehewehe hou ana i ke kanikau no ka makahiki pāpaho, a ʻo kā lākou puke mua he mau kakini o nā moʻolelo e pili ana i nā mea āpau mai ke ola ʻana i nā kamaʻilio liʻiliʻi ma hope o ka lilo ʻana i ka hewa o ka mea ola. He hohonu a he ʻakaʻaka kēia leo (kahi mokuna i kapa ʻia ʻO ka make ʻana o kaʻu kāne i viral a ʻo kaʻu mea i loaʻa ʻo kēia T-shirt lousy.)
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12. KA POE KAHUA NA YVETTE LUCIANO
Makemake ʻoe e pivot mai kāu hana o kēia manawa (a i ʻole ka hana ʻole) i kahi hana ʻoi aku ka ʻoluʻolu - akā hopohopo ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe akamai, akamai a kūikawā paha e kākoʻo i ka hana? Ke mālama nei kēia puke, na kahi mea aʻoaʻo ola ma Australia, ma o ke kaiāulu, ka hui pū ʻana a me ka wiwo ʻole, hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kahi ola moeʻuhane paʻa, ʻaʻohe pono B.
Amazon13. He ʻino ʻoe: pehea e hoʻōki ai i ke kanalua i kou hanohano a hoʻomaka i ke ola ʻana i kahi ola weliweli na Jen Sincere
Ma nā mokuna e like me Your Brain Is Your Bitch, Fear Is for Suckers and My Subconscious Made Me Do It, Ua kākau ʻo Sincero i kahi kamaʻilio kamaʻilio, leo witty e leʻaleʻa maoli ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana iā ia iho. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ua pā mākou i kēia kanaka i kahi ahiahi.
14. MAKAHIKI O KA ʻAe: Pehea e hula ai, kū i ka lā a lilo i kanaka ponoʻī nou. NA SHONDA RHIMES
He ʻoiaʻiʻo hiki ʻole ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻo Shonda Rhimes. Ma waho aʻe o ka hana ʻana, kākau a hana Ke Anatomy o Grey a Hoʻopiʻi a me ka hana ana Pehea e pakele ai me ka pepehi kanaka , ʻO Rhimes ka mea kākau kūʻai maikaʻi loa o kahi memoir memoir i hoʻopiha ʻia me nā ʻōlelo aʻo ola. ʻOiai ʻo Rhimes e hōʻike ana i kona wā kamaliʻi me ka ʻakaʻaka a me ka ʻakaʻaka, hāʻawi ʻo Rhimes i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka hoʻokō ʻana i kāu mau pahuhopu (ʻoiai inā ʻoe, e like me ia, he introvert). E nānā kākou: ʻO Shondaland ia, a ke noho wale nei mākou i loko o laila - hauʻoli.
Amazonumikumālima. Hana i kou moena: Nā mea liʻiliʻi e hiki ke hoʻololi i kou ola ... a ʻo ka honua paha na William H. McRaven
Paʻa ʻoe, no laila ʻaʻole i loko o nā kāleka ka hoʻoponopono hou ʻana o kou ola holoʻokoʻa i kēia manawa. ʻO ia ke kumu e mahalo ai mākou i ke ala maʻalahi o kēia alakaʻi. Hōʻike kēlā me kēia mokuna i kahi kumumanaʻo e like me Life's Not Fair, Drive On! a ʻAʻole loa e haʻalele! (Hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi aku ua kākau ʻia e ka Navy SEAL?) Aia mākou ma ʻaneʻi no ka nele o ke kō i kēia mau ʻaoʻao.
Amazon16. ʻO ke kiʻi maʻalahi o ka hāʻawi ʻole ʻana i kahi F*ck: He ala kūʻē i ka noho ʻana i kahi ola maikaʻi. na Mark Manson
Eia nā mea a pau e pono ai ʻoe e ʻike: Ua hana ʻo Manson i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa, kākoʻo ʻia e ka noiʻi hoʻonaʻauao a me nā ʻakaʻaka poop maikaʻi, ʻo ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i ko mākou ola e hilinaʻi ʻaʻole i ko mākou hiki ke hoʻololi i nā lemona i lemonade, akā ma ke aʻo ʻana i ka ʻōpū o nā lemona. He hemahema a kaupalena 'ia ke kanaka. ʻO Manson, kahi mea kākau kōkua ponoʻī nona nā puke i kūʻai aku ma mua o 13 miliona mau kope, aʻo iā mākou e ʻike i kā mākou mau palena a ʻae iā lākou, wehewehe ka Amazon synopsis. A ʻo ka poʻe ma luna o 4,000 i hāʻawi i kēia puke i ka loiloi ʻelima-hōkū ke manaʻo nei aia ʻo ia i kekahi mea.
Amazon17. OLE NA GLENNON DOYLE
ʻO ka puke hou loa mai ka mea kākau kūʻai maikaʻi loa, ʻo ka makuahine a me ka mea haʻi ʻōlelo ʻo Doyle nā ʻāpana like me ka memo a me ke ala ala. ʻO ia ka moʻolelo o ka ʻike ʻana o kekahi wahine ʻaʻole ʻo ka makuahine kuleana ʻaʻole i make mālie no kāna mau keiki, akā ʻo ka mea nāna e hōʻike iā lākou pehea e ola piha ai. Kākau ʻo Doyle e pili ana i ka hoʻokele ʻana i ka male male, ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi ʻohana hui hou, a me ke aʻo ʻana e hilinaʻi pono iā mākou iho e hoʻonoho i nā palena a hoʻokuʻu i kā mākou ʻoiaʻiʻo.
18. MA AHA OE E HELE AI, MAILA OE na Jon Kabat-Zinn
ʻO kēia puke hoʻonaʻauao kahi kumu i ka noʻonoʻo. (ʻO ia, inā e hoʻomanaʻo ʻoe, ʻo ia pōmaikaʻi nui .) ʻO Kabat-Zinn, he polopeka emeritus ma ke Kulanui o Massachusetts nāna i aʻo i ka Buddhism Zen ma lalo o Thich Nhat Hanh, he ala e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i nā kumuhana paʻakikī i nā haʻawina maʻalahi e maʻalahi e hoʻokomo maoli i kou ola. (ʻAʻole pono ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka hola.) Hoʻokahi mea i paʻa loa iā mākou ʻo ka manaʻo o ka hana ʻole, a i ʻole ka waiho ʻana i nā mea e like me kā lākou makemake.
Amazon19. RISING STRONG: Pehea ka hiki ke hoʻoponopono hou i ke ʻano o ko mākou ola, aloha, makua a alakaʻi. NA BRENÉ BROWN
Wahi a ke kaukaʻi noiʻi a me ke kamaʻilio kamaʻilio TED kaulana ʻo Brené Brown, hiki i ka hemahema ke lilo i mea maikaʻi. Ma kāna puke ʻelima, wehewehe ʻo Brown ʻo ka hoʻokele ʻana i nā manawa paʻakikī o ko mākou ola ke aʻo pinepine nei mākou i ko mākou ʻano.
iwakālua. F*CK MANAʻO NA MICHAEL I. BENNETT, M.D. ME SARAH BENNETT
Kākau ʻia e kahi hui makua kāne-kaikamahine (ʻo Michael he psychiatrist a ʻo Sarah he mea kākau moʻolelo hoʻomākeʻaka), ʻo kēia alakaʻi hoʻokō ʻoi aku ka ʻoi aku o ka puke anti-self-help. Ma ka ʻōlelo ʻakaʻaka, hoʻopaʻapaʻa lākou ʻo nā ala hou no ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā pilikia o ke ola e kau i ka manaʻo kūpono ʻole i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā manaʻo. Akā, manaʻo lākou e kau i ka hana maikaʻi ma mua o ka manaʻo maikaʻi, a ʻaʻole e hoʻokuʻu i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole e hoʻohuli iā ʻoe mai ka noho maikaʻi ʻana.
Amazoniwakāluakumakahi. Pehea e lanakila ai i nā hoaaloha a hoʻoikaika i nā kānaka na Dale Carnegie
Ua kaulana kēia puke mai ka wā i paʻi mua ʻia ai i ka makahiki 1936, a ʻo nā kānaka mau heluhelu ana. Inā ʻoe e ʻimi e ʻike e pili ana i kāu kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu mau hoa hana, nā hoaaloha a me nā hoalauna, aia ʻo Carnegie e kōkua. Hāʻawi ʻo ia i nā hoʻolālā interpersonal o ka poʻe kūleʻa i ka mōʻaukala e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e kōkua iā ʻoe e kūleʻa i ka hana (a i ke ola pū kekahi).
PILI : He aha ke kaumaha o Anticipatory a pehea ʻoe e hoʻokō ai? Nīnau mākou i kahi loea
