Inā ʻo kēlā me kēia male ʻana āu i hele ai e kau ʻia kahi hōʻailona kumu kūʻai nui e ʻike ai ʻoe i ka nui o ke kumukūʻai—ʻo kahi pāʻina 250-kanaka i loko o kahi hōkele ʻo Philly i loko o ke kaona ʻo Philly he ʻokoʻa loa ke ʻano mai ka 50-kanaka pili. pili i ka Rockies…a i ʻole?
Inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo nei pehea e hoʻolālā ai i kahi male ma kahi kālā, ʻo ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā mea hoʻolimalima nui o ka hoʻolālā hanana hanana ke kī i ke kōkua ʻana iā ʻoe e noho i kāu pae. No ka laʻana, manaʻo paha ʻoe he ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kahi pilina pili me ka meaʻai, ke mele a me ka leʻaleʻa ma mua o ka, e ʻōlelo ʻia, he 400 kanaka soiree ma ke keʻena hanana - akā no ka mea ʻaʻole hana kāu hale ʻaina liʻiliʻi i ka male ʻana. ʻO ka manawa pinepine, ʻaʻole i kūkākūkā ʻia ke ʻano o ka waina ma ka papa kuhikuhi a kauoha kou ʻAnakala Phil i kahi ʻōmole o kahi Cab vintage i hoʻohui, hmmm , ,000 i ka bila.
No laila, he aha ka mea e komo ai i loko o kahi kālā mare maʻamau? Ua nānā mākou me New York City Event Planner ʻO Jennifer Brisman , aka ka Wedding Planner, e aʻo e pili ana i ka awelika kālā o ka male mare a me nā ala e ʻoki ai i lalo i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana i ka hapa nui o kāu kālā.
Pehea e hoʻopau pinepine ʻia ai kahi kālā male male:
1. Uku luna (1% o ka waihona kālā)
Inā male ʻoe ma kahi hale pule orthodox, e kākau inoa i kāu hoa Chad e lilo i kuhina ma ka pūnaewele a i ʻole hoʻohui iā ʻoe iho (ʻae, hiki iā ʻoe ke mare me ka ʻole o ka ʻaoʻao ʻekolu ma kekahi mau wahi, e like me Pennsylvania), aia kekahi ʻano kumu kūʻai— e like me ka uku laikini mare. Inā ʻoe e hoʻohana nei i kahi kahuna pule, ʻike ʻo Brisman e hiki i kāu luna ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi koho ma waena o ka hāʻawi ʻana i kahi hāʻawi i ko lākou hale hoʻomana a i ʻole ka uku no kā lākou lawelawe. Inā ʻoe e hana i ka mea mua, hiki ke unuhi ʻia ka ʻauhau. Hoʻomaopopo pono.
2. Nā makana pāʻina male (2% o ka waihona kālā)
ʻOiai ʻaʻole pono loa, he mea maikaʻi loa ia, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi inā i komo kāu ʻahaʻaina mare no kahi bachelorette a me ka ʻauʻau. Manaʻo ʻo Brisman, e hoʻoponopono i kēia ma ka hopena o ka huakaʻi hoʻolālā i ka wā i nānā ai ʻoe i nā mea kūʻai nui. ʻO kēia ala, ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻohana i kekahi kapikala āu e makemake ai e kau i kahi ʻē aʻe.
caffeine i ka ʻōmaʻomaʻo kī vs kofe
3. Nā kōkua a me nā haʻawina (2% o ka waihona kālā)
He mea maʻalahi ke hoʻopoina he ʻāpana kēia o kāu kālā - no laila e hoʻomanaʻo mua (a hoʻomanaʻo pinepine). E noʻonoʻo ʻoe he mahalo kūpono, ʻōlelo ʻo Brisman iā mākou, ʻaʻole wale no kahi hana i hana maikaʻi ʻia, akā no ka hele ʻana i luna a ma waho. Inā hana kekahi no kahi ʻoihana, kūpono ke kuhikuhi iā lākou; inā hana lākou no lākou iho a ke uku nei ʻoe iā lākou, pololei, ʻaʻole kēia i ʻōlelo ikaika ʻia. Eia kekahi, i kēia hihia, ʻaʻole ka pākēneka o ka huina kālā ka uku kālā—no laila, mai manaʻo ʻoe e uku i kahi ʻāpana 20 pakeneka ma kahi bila kiʻi ,000. E kuhikuhi i ka mea āu i manaʻo ai he kūpono!
ʻEhā. Nā kono a me nā mea pepa (7% o ka waihona kālā)
Hoʻohui ʻia nā mea maʻamau a pau, no laila paipai ʻo Brisman i kāna poʻe kūʻai aku e ʻike pono lākou i kā lākou mea e komo ai a loaʻa iā lākou nā koho: Nui nā koho kumu kūʻai no nā mea paʻi a me nā mea pepa, i paʻi ʻia a me nā kikohoʻe. E hana i kāu haʻawina home a e hōʻoia maoli ʻoe e ʻike i kāu mea e makemake ai a pono ai a aia nā mea ʻelua i ke kālā. ʻAʻole kūpono ka hele ʻana i ka waihona kālā ma nā mea a nā kānaka e hoʻolei aku ai.
5. Nā lole a me nā mea pono o ka wahine mare (5% o ka waihona kālā)
ʻO kēia kahi kahi i hele nui ʻole ai ka poʻe ma waho o ka waihona kālā, hoʻopuka ʻo Brisman ma hope o ka ʻike ʻana i ka wahine mare ma hope o ka wahine mare e hoʻāʻo i kahi lole ,000 no ka leʻaleʻa a laila aloha loa iā ia. Inā hoʻāʻo ʻoe e mālama i kēia ʻāpana e hoʻomanaʻo: Hoʻokahi wale nō ʻoe e ʻaʻahu ai.
6. Paʻi kiʻi a me ka wikiō (10% o ka waihona kālā)
Inā hoʻokahi mea ʻaʻole e hoʻopaʻa ʻia, ʻo ia kēia māhele, wahi a Brisman: ʻO kēia kahi wahi e hoʻolilo maoli ai. Loaʻa nā kiʻi i ke ola a pau! A ʻo nā wikiō wale nō ke ala e hopu ai i ka hana kilokilo a me ka ikaika o ka lā a hauʻoli iā ia no nā makahiki e hiki mai ana, manaʻolana me kāu mau keiki a me kāu moʻopuna.
ʻoi loa ka ʻaila lauoho maoli no ka ulu ʻana o ka lauoho
7. Nā mele a me nā leʻaleʻa (12% o ka waihona kālā)
ʻAʻohe kānāwai paʻakikī a me ka wikiwiki e pono ai i kēlā me kēia male mare ke lilo i pāʻina hula, akā inā makemake ʻoe e wāwahi i nā neʻe, ʻo ke mele maikaʻi ke kī. Ua hopohopo e pili ana i kāu laina lalo? Inā ʻaʻole hiki i kāu kālā ke loaʻa i kahi hui, ʻike kahi DJ kupaianaha i ka heluhelu ʻana i ka lehulehu a hoʻokani i nā mele kūpono i ka manawa kūpono.
8. Nā pua a me nā mea hoʻonaninani (13% o ka waihona kālā)
ʻOi aku paha ke kumukūʻai o kēlā mau peonies— mea nui loa ʻoi aku - ma mua o kou manaʻo. E hoʻolohe i ka ʻōlelo aʻo a Brisman: Mai hoʻolālā ma Pinterest. E hoʻoikaika i laila. ʻO kēlā mau kiʻi o ka hoʻonaninani male ʻana paha he ʻumi mau manawa ma mua o ka mea āu e hoʻolālā nei e hoʻolilo.
9. Kahi hoʻokipa, meaʻai, mea inu a me nā limahana (45% o ka waihona kālā)
Ahhh, nā mea leʻaleʻa. ʻO kēia ka makuahine o kāu kālā a he hopena nui ia i ka pāʻina maoli. Paipai ʻo Brisman i ka ʻimi ʻana i lalo a hoʻokō i kahi koho liʻiliʻi o nā meaʻai a me nā mea inu maoli maikaʻi ma mua o ka hoʻolaha ʻana iā ʻoe iho i ka lahilahi no ka mea e hōʻike ʻia. E noʻonoʻo i ka mea nui iā ʻoe a hana i hope, wahi āna.
Loaʻa iā ʻoe—kāu pūlāwai keke ʻai male ʻeiwa. Me he mea lā ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi ma mua o ka wā e moeʻuhane wale ana ʻoe, akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i ka hoʻolilo ʻana e mālama iā ʻoe mai nā mea kupanaha nui ma lalo o ka laina. ʻO ia ke kumu i nīnau ai mākou iā Brisman e pili ana i nā kuhi hewa kālā pinepine āna e ʻike ai a pehea e pale aku ai.
ʻO nā hewa maʻamau o ka hoʻolālā male ʻana e hoʻopau i kāu kālā:
1. ʻO kāu papa inoa malihini he pahuhopu neʻe
ʻO ka hewa maʻamau a nā kāne e hoʻohaʻahaʻa i kā lākou papa inoa malihini. No laila e lawe i kou manawa e kūkulu ai ma mua o kou hoʻolālā ʻana, no ka mea hiki i kahi papa inoa malihini ke a pono e lawe i nā pule i ʻole. A laila, hele ʻoe e pili ana i kāu lā hana, kāu mau hopena pule kaiapili a me nā kelepona pō pule me ka ʻohana wale nō e ʻike i ka nui o nā poʻe āu i manaʻo ai e pono ke komo ma ka papa inoa. No laila, hoʻonui ʻoe i ka papa inoa e ʻike i ke ʻano o ka manaʻo i ka wā i hoʻopaʻa ʻia, e ʻike wale ʻoe pono ʻoe e hoʻihoʻi i lalo. ʻO ka ʻimi ʻana i kēlā ʻano hauʻoli ke kī. ʻO ka hopena ma aneʻi e ʻike i ka liʻiliʻi hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i ka wā e hoʻokaʻawale ai i kahi papa inoa B.
2. E pale ana i na kamailio paakiki
ʻO kekahi o nā ala maʻalahi e neʻe ai i nā wahi ʻeha maʻamau o ka hoʻolālā ʻana i ka male ʻana, ʻo ia ka loaʻa ʻana o kēlā mau kamaʻilio ʻoluʻolu i mua o ke kaʻina hoʻolālā - inā pili lākou i ka ʻohana, ka hoʻomana a i ʻole, ʻoiaʻiʻo, kālā. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kēia mau mea i ka wā mua, e hele mai lākou e hoʻopilikia iā ʻoe inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi miliona mau mea e hopohopo ai.
3. ʻAʻole kūkulu ʻia i loko o kahi cushion contingency
E hana hou ma hope o mākou: No ka nui o kaʻu hoʻolālā ʻana a i ʻole ke ʻano o kaʻu papapalapala Excel, e loaʻa iaʻu nā kumukūʻai ʻike ʻole. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻolālā i ka mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia, akā ʻo ʻoe hiki e hoʻolālā no ka mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia ma ka hana ʻana i kahi cushion palekana i kāu kālā. (Mic drop.)
4. Hoʻolālā i kāu male ʻana ma ka ʻoihana pūnaewele
He wahi maikaʻi ka pāʻoihana kaiapili e hoʻoulu ai, akā ua ʻālohilohi hoʻi me nā kiʻi mare nani me ka ʻole o ka ʻike ʻana i nā hōʻailona kālā, a ua ʻike ʻo Brisman i nā hopena: ʻoi aku ka nui o ko mākou mau maka ma mua o ko mākou ʻōpū. E hoʻomanaʻo i kēia mau kiʻi nani no nā kaomi, makemake a me nā manaʻo. ʻAʻole lākou e hōʻike i kahi ala i kahi male i hoʻokō maikaʻi ʻia ma ke kālā. A ʻaʻole lākou i wehewehe i ka 'hauʻoli kāne.' E hoʻohana i ka pāpili kaiapili a me nā ʻōlelo kikohoʻe ʻē aʻe ma ke ʻano he kuhikuhi e kamaʻilio me nā mea kūʻai aku e pili ana i ke ʻano a me ka ʻike i loaʻa iā ʻoe no kou lā nui.
Ua loaʻa iā mākou nā ʻōlelo aʻo maikaʻi aʻe mai kahi kanaka nāna nā hoʻolālā ʻO nā male mare no ke ola ʻana, akā pehea e pili ana i nā wahine mare maoli a me nā kāne i hele maoli i kēia manawa? Ua noi mākou i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo mālama kālā a me nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo mai kā mākou mau hoaaloha i ola e haʻi i ka moʻolelo. Eia kā lākou i ʻōlelo mai ai iā mākou.
Nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo kālā mai nā wahine mare maoli
1. Hoʻokuʻu i nā lā mālama nani
E nānā, makemake mākou i ka calligraphy lima a hāpai i ka leka e like me ka mea aʻe. Akā, e pa'i 'ia nā save-the-dates e kū'ai 'oe i mau haneli kālā (ma ka li'ili'i loa) ma kahi mea āu i laila pono e hana hou no ka mare! ʻOiaʻiʻo, maikaʻi a nani hoʻi lākou, akā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi (a ʻano ʻino, pololei?). Akā, e hoʻouna i kahi kikohoʻe hoʻopaʻa-ka-lā nani ma o kahi pūnaewele like Leta Pepa ole . Nui nō hoʻi nā ʻano o ka hele ʻana i ke kikohoʻe: Hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻiliʻili i nā leka uila, hoʻouna i nā hoʻomanaʻo, hoʻonohonoho i nā kalena a loaʻa maʻalahi i kāu pūnaewele male mare.
2. E kūkulu i kahi pūnaewele manuahi
hana keke me ka umu ole
ʻAe, pono e loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi pūnaewele male i hiki i kāu mau malihini ke komo maʻalahi i nā ʻike āpau i ʻole lākou e leka uila iā ʻoe i ka lā, ma hea ke kaʻa e lawe hou ai iā mākou? Akā ʻaʻohe kumu uku no kahi pūnaewele mare i kēia mau lā—a ʻae, e komo pū ana ka inoa kikowaena a me ke kikowaena! Nā pūnaewele e like me Zola a me Mini ʻia hāʻawi i nā pūnaewele mare manuahi i hiki ke hoʻohana ʻia, sleek a maʻalahi hoʻi e hoʻohana.
3. E hana i ka lula maʻamau e ʻoki i ka papa inoa malihini
ʻO kāu helu papa inoa nā mea a pau . Hoʻomaopopo ia i ka papa kuhikuhi, ka wahi a me kāu kālā holoʻokoʻa. No laila, ua haʻi mai kekahi hoa akamai iā mākou e hana i hoʻokahi lula e like me 21 a ʻoi aku
a i ʻole ʻaʻohe mea hoʻohui ke ʻole he koʻikoʻi maoli kahi ala maʻalahi e hōʻemi i kāu helu me ka ʻole e hōʻeha i nā manaʻo.
4. E aie i kou pale
Hoʻolilo i 0 ma kahi pale? A i ʻole…e noi aku i kahi hoaaloha i mare hou e hōʻaiʻē iā ia. Loaʻa paha, ʻae ʻo ia.
5. A me kāu mau mea nani
Inā ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e hoʻolilo kālā, mai puhi kālā i nā mea nani. He ʻanakē paha a he kupuna wahine paha ʻoe e ʻae ʻoluʻolu iā ʻoe e hōʻaiʻē i nā apo pepeiao daimana a momi paha no kēia lā koʻikoʻi o kou ola.
6. E kūʻai i nā koho hoʻololi i nā boutiques male kiʻekiʻe
Like BHLDN , Floravera ame Modcloth .
7. Mai poina i na koina hoololi
ʻO koʻu ʻaʻahu he 0—no laila, manaʻo wau e hele mai ana au ma lalo o ka hoʻolilo kālā… a hiki i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka bila hoʻololi no 0. E noʻonoʻo e noʻonoʻo i nā hoʻololi āu e pono ai ke hoʻāʻo ʻoe i nā ʻaʻahu, ʻōlelo ʻo Tanya, he wahine mare hou.
8. E male i ka pō pule
Anna, aPampereDpeopleny wahine mare me ka waiwai o ka mare-budgeting intel, i kona fete ma ka Poaha a hai mai ia makou, he 60 pakeneka emi ma mua o ka ia wahi ma Friday, a me 80 pakeneka emi mai ka Poaono. ʻOiaʻiʻo, he mea ʻakaʻaka ka ʻōlelo ʻana i kaʻu male ʻana ma ka Pōʻalima, akā maikaʻi loa! Ua mahalo ka hapa nui o koʻu mau hoaaloha ʻaʻole wau i hoʻokae i kā lākou hopena pule a hiki ke hele i ka hana i ka lā aʻe inā makemake lākou.
he aha ka palaoa paʻa
9. E nīnau i kāu mea paʻi kiʻi i ka uku o ka hola
A laila e noʻonoʻo i nā hola i mea nui loa nāu. ʻAʻole pono paha ʻoe i nā kiʻi hoʻomākaukau. Hiki iā ia ke mālama i ,000, wahi a Anna.
10. E noʻonoʻo i nā koho ʻē aʻe no ka hui
Inā hoʻonui ka ʻaha i ke kumukūʻai ma ke keʻena pāʻina moe, e ʻimi i kahi wahi ʻē aʻe no kāu hui. He pāʻani maikaʻi nā paka, a koi wale i ka palapala ʻae, ʻo ia ka mea maʻamau he mau haneli wale nō ka nui. ʻO Central Park he 0 a ʻo ia ʻo Central Park, haʻi mai kekahi wahine mare iā mākou.
11. E nīnau inā e ʻae kāu mau mea kūʻai aku i ke kālā ma mua o ka uku ʻana i ka ʻauhau
ʻAʻole e hoʻowalewale iā ʻoe i ka mākeke ʻeleʻele, akā inā he 9 pakeneka ka ʻauhau ma kahi mokuʻāina e like me New York, hiki iā ia ke mālama iā ʻoe i kahi puʻu kālā maikaʻi. ʻAʻole ʻoe i lohe mai iā mākou.
12. E ʻike inā e ʻae nā mea kūʻai aku iā ʻoe i ke kālā
ʻO ke kālā me nā mea kūʻai aku e ʻae iā ia, haʻi mai kekahi wahine mare iā mākou, a ua wehe ka hapa nui iā ia. Ma kahi o ka hāʻawi ʻana i kaʻu mea paʻi kiʻi i ka huina nui i ke kakahiaka o koʻu male ʻana, ua hoʻokaʻawale au iā ia ma luna o ʻekolu mau uku liʻiliʻi. Ua uku au i piha me nā mahina e hele ai a he mea kupanaha ka nānā ʻana i kēlā mai kaʻu papa inoa.
13. E wehe i kahi kāleka hōʻaiʻē me kahi bonus hōʻailona nui
A e uku no ka nui o kāu mahina meli me nā helu (eia kekahi o nā kāleka maikaʻi loa no ka hōʻiliʻili ʻana i nā makana nui)—a i ʻole ka hoʻomaha holoʻokoʻa!
14. E kūʻai aku i kāu mau kiʻi hoʻopaʻa inoa no kahi album male
Hana loa ʻoe pono kiʻi hoʻopaʻa inoa? Nui nā mea paʻi kiʻi e hoʻopili i kēia i kā lākou uku. ʻO wai ka mea ʻike? Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke kūʻai aku i nā kiʻi hoʻopaʻa inoa no nā kiʻi ʻaina ahiahi a i ʻole kahi album male.
15. Hoʻokipa ma kahi hale ʻaina
ʻO ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i kāu male ma kahi hale ʻaina ʻo ia hoʻi, aia ka meaʻai, ka pā a me nā limahana ma ka pūnaewele. Hiki iā ia ke kōkua iā ʻoe e pale i nā uku hoʻolimalima wahi. ʻElua mau mea e makaʻala ai, wahi a kā mākou kumu hoʻopukapuka kālā ʻo Anna: E noi paha ka hale ʻaina e pā ʻoe i kahi meaʻai a me ka mea inu liʻiliʻi loa - ʻo ia ka mea maʻamau. A oe pono e hōʻoia ua hana mua ka hale ʻaina i kēia. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e lilo i puaʻa i kā lākou hoʻokolohua male.
16. E aʻo e aloha iā Excel
No ka wahine mare e hiki mai ana ʻo Rachel: E male ana au i hoʻokahi mahina no laila ke noho nei au i loko o kahi papapalapala Excel. Loaʻa iā mākou kēlā me kēia mea i loko o kahi pālahalaha me ke kumukūʻai i manaʻo ʻia o kēlā me kēia mea, ke kumu kūʻai maoli, ehia ka nui o kā mākou uku i kēia lā, nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no kā mākou mea kūʻai aku, a pēlā aku i hiki iā mākou ke mālama maʻalahi i nā lilo āpau. Manaʻo nui wau i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi cushion e hāʻule i hope no ka mea aia he miliona mau mea liʻiliʻi e puka mai ana ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e helu, e like me ke kūʻai ʻana i ka ʻaina kakahiaka (a me ka ʻaina awakea) no kāu pāʻina male ke hoʻomākaukau ʻoe a paʻi kiʻi.
pono o ka jeera i ka poho kaumaha
17. Hana i kahi papa inoa splurge vs. scrimp
ʻO kekahi wahine mare hou (ʻo Rachel ka inoa) e aʻo i nā kāne i ka wā e hiki mai ana e hoʻokaʻawale i kahi a lākou e hoʻolimalima ai a OK scrimping, Noʻu, ʻo ia ke kapa (ua maikaʻi wau i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana no kēia), akā ʻo ia ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke loaʻa kahi hui. (ua loaʻa iā mākou kahi DJ); nona, he kiʻi paʻi kiʻi (ʻo ia ʻo ADAMANT i loaʻa iā mākou kēia), no laila, ʻo ia ka mea i hoʻemi mākou i nā makana malihini (ua hana mākou i nā M&M maʻamau, akā ua loaʻa iā lākou kahi memento kiʻi kiʻi, no laila ʻoluʻolu?). Ke laina lalo: Ua kōkua ia iā mākou e noʻonoʻo i kā mākou hoʻolimalima ma ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i nā kumukūʻai ma mua.
