I loko o kahi honua maikaʻi loa, e hoʻopakele kāu kāne i ka wā e hiki mai ana mai ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi kaʻa UPS i kou hakakā ʻana e hoʻokuʻu i kāu slingback Gucci mai kahi pahu wai. E hāʻule ʻoe i loko o nā lima o kēlā me kēia, a laila ʻo ia, he kauā (hoʻi mai kahi huakaʻi ʻo Doctors Without Borders, maoli), e nānā i kou mau maka a hāʻule i ke aloha. Akā, ʻaʻole ʻoe ʻo J.Lo, a male ʻo Matthew McConaughey — kala mai, e nā wahine. ʻO kēia ke ola maoli, kahi e loaʻa ai kahi hoa ma waho o ka nahelehele e like me ka loaʻa ʻana o Gucci ma ke kūʻai aku. Akā, nui ka poʻe e hoʻopili nei ma o nā polokalamu kaʻana like ʻo lākou ke ala helu hoʻokahi e hui ai nā kāne, e like me kahi ʻO ke kula ʻo Stanford University .
ʻOiai e hāʻawi ana kēia i ka manaʻolana, ʻike mākou ʻo ka hoʻokele ʻana i ka Pūnaewele puni honua o nā pūnaewele kaʻa kaʻa hiki ke paʻakikī a paʻakikī hoʻi. ʻO ia ke kumu i hiki aku ai mākou i nā wahine maoli he 12 mai nā ʻāina āpau i hiki ke hana me ka holomua a noi aku iā lākou no kā lākou ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo maikaʻi loa ma ka pūnaewele. Ko lakou naauao, malalo.
1. E ʻimi i kahi mea e maʻalahi iā ʻoe
E kali i ka mea e hele ana ma ke ala nou. No ka laʻana, no kā mākou lā mua, ua hoʻoholo ʻo Joey e koho i kahi kokoke i koʻu hale a i kahi manawa i maʻalahi iaʻu. Noho au ma ka ʻaoʻao Hikina Hikina i kēlā manawa, a ua noho ʻo ia i lalo ma Hell's Kitchen (ʻo ia ʻo New York mamao loa ). Ua hōʻike mai iaʻu ua hoihoi ʻo ia iaʻu a me koʻu ola—a ua ʻokoʻa loa ia mai ka manaʻo maʻamau 'E, e hui kāua' āu e ʻike pinepine ai ma nā polokalamu hoʻopaʻa inoa-i alakaʻi ʻia i ʻehā a me ka hapa makahiki o ka male ʻana a me 19 makahiki. - keiki kāne mahina. — Amy D., 35, Bronx, Niu Ioka
2. E ʻoki iā lākou inā ʻaʻole lākou e leka uila iā ʻoe
Ua oki au—ma hope o koʻu male ʻana i kahi ʻōpio maikaʻi loa—no laila, he mea weliweli loa ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i nā polokalamu hoʻokama no ka manawa mua i koʻu mau makahiki he 20. Akā, ua aʻo au mai kēlā male mua ʻaʻole au makemake e hoʻopau manawa i ka mea ʻaʻole i hele pinepine. Manaʻo wau he mea maikaʻi ka hele ʻana i nā lā, a ʻo ʻoe pono e hele i nā lā inā makemake ʻoe i ke kanaka āu e leka uila nei, akā inā ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻouna mai iā ʻoe i ka manawa kūpono, e neʻe wale. ʻO ka mea makemake maoli e ʻike iā ʻoe e hōʻike i kēlā mea. — ʻO Carra T., 29, Los Angeles
3. E kīkī i kāu ʻano i ka pā
E haʻi wau i nā hoaaloha hoʻokahi e mālama i ka noʻonoʻo ākea a ʻaʻole e hele i kekahi 'ʻano.' I koʻu hālāwai ʻana me kaʻu kāne i kēia manawa, ua swiping pololei wau i nā ʻano ultra-masculine a pau, nā ʻano hana kino no ka mea, ma ke kino, ʻo ia ka mea. Ua komo wau i kēia manawa. Manaʻo paha ʻoe ua hoihoi wale ʻoe i nā kāne blonde me ka lauoho e like me Thor a i ʻole ka mea pōkole ma mua o 5'6 'ma waho o ka nīnau. Akā ʻo ka ʻakaʻaka o kaʻu kāne i kāna kiʻi kiʻi me he mea lā he ʻoiaʻiʻo a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi a ua huki mai iaʻu i loko, no laila hāʻawi wau iā ia i kahi manawa a hauʻoli wau i kaʻu hana ʻana! Ua male mākou i Nowemapa. — Megan K., 40, Lexington, Kentucky
4. E uku no ka pūnaewele inā loaʻa iā ʻoe ka heluna kanaka āu e makemake ai e launa pū
I koʻu hele ʻana ma ka pūnaewele, ua hele au i nā ton o nā lā Hinge, e like paha me ʻelua mau lā mua i ka pule, ʻaʻole i nui ka nui. I ka hopena, ua lawe au i ka ʻōlelo aʻo a kaʻu hoa kāne maikaʻi loa, nāna i haʻi mai iaʻu inā makemake wau e hālāwai me kahi kanaka koʻikoʻi e pili ana i ka pilina lōʻihi, pono wau e uku no ka noho ʻana ma kahi kahua kaʻa-ʻo ka pehea ʻO mākou. (Akā, i uku ʻia nā paena pili i kēia lā, ʻo ia ʻo Match, eHarmony, JDate, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe.) Ua hoʻohālikelike wau me kahi kanaka uʻi loa, 6'4' i makemake e lawe iaʻu i waho no ka mac a me ka cheese a me ka waina-ʻo koʻu hoa ʻuhane, obvi. Ua hala ʻelima makahiki a me ka hapa mai kēlā lā a ʻaʻole au i komo hou i loko. Ua male mākou i ʻehā mahina i hala! — Meredith G., 31, Nu Ioka Kulanakauhale
5. E hoʻokuʻu i nā polokalamu i ka wā e launa pū ana ʻoe me kekahi
I mea e hāʻawi ai i kahi lā mua-a i ʻole kekahi lā, ʻoiaʻiʻo-he manawa e pua ai a ulu i kahi mea maoli a koʻikoʻi, pono ʻoe e hoʻopau i nā leka hoʻomaopopo i kāu mau hana pili i ʻole e loaʻa iā ʻoe nā mea hoʻowalewale ʻoiai ʻoe me kekahi. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hele piha i kahi lā me hoʻokahi kanaka ke kiʻi nei i kahi leka hou mai kekahi. —Amanda B., 37, Dallas
6. E hele i ke kanaka ki'i ma'amau i pili i kona bio
He mea nui e ho'āʻo e noʻonoʻo ʻo wai ke kanaka ma mua o ka nānā wale ʻana i kekahi no ka mea e nānā maikaʻi kā lākou kiʻi ma ka uhi o GQ . ʻO nā kiʻi a kaʻu kāne i kēia manawa he mea maʻamau a ʻaʻole i hoʻonui ʻia e like me nā mea ʻē aʻe. Ma kahi o ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana i nā kiʻi poʻo, loaʻa iā ia nā kiʻi maʻamau o ia a me kāna mau ʻīlio (kahi ʻike hōʻailona o ka hilinaʻi ) a me kahi selfie kīhini kumu. He mea maʻamau nō kona bio; ʻAʻole ʻo ia e hana i ka nui pupule a hele i ka huakaʻi huakaʻi i kēlā me kēia pule pule. ʻAi ʻo ia i ka pizza a inu i ka whiskey. Ua kūʻai ʻia au! —Lauren N., 31, Long Beach, Kaleponi
7. Mai hōʻalo i nā ʻokoʻa moʻomeheu
Ma hope o ʻehā mau makahiki o ka launa pū ʻana, ʻekolu mau makahiki a male male paha a i kēia manawa me kahi pēpē ma ke ala, hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo hauʻoli wau i lawe i kahi manawa me ka launa pūnaewele a me kahi mea ʻokoʻa loa mai iaʻu iho. Ua komo au i loko me ka manaʻo o ka wehe ʻana a me ka ʻae ʻana i kēlā mau ʻokoʻa, ʻaʻole ia he mea liʻiliʻi i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i koʻu ʻohana a no Rizal, kahi panalāʻau ma waho o Manila i ka Philippines, a ʻo Mike no kahi ʻohana nui Italia ma New Jersey. Akā, ʻo ka wehe ʻana i ka mea i ʻokoʻa ai mākou a me ke aʻo ʻana kekahi i kekahi e pili ana i kā mākou mau kuʻuna a me kā mākou mau loina ʻoi aku ka pili loa iā mākou ma mua o kaʻu i manaʻo ai. —Dia M., 36, Somerset, New Jersey
8. E hana i kahi papa inoa o nā mea a pau āu e ʻimi nei i kahi pilina
Pono ʻoe e ʻike i ka pane i ka nīnau 'He aha kāu e ʻimi nei?'. ʻAʻole wau e nīnau a manaʻo mau he nīnau naʻaupō ia, akā i ka nīnau ʻana mai o kaʻu kāne i kēia manawa ma Bumble ma hope o kā mākou kamaʻilio ʻana no kekahi manawa liʻiliʻi, ua like ʻo ia me ke kanaka ʻoiaʻiʻo a pololei. (ʻo ia!), no laila ua haʻi wau iā ia i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e ʻimi nei au i kahi mea koʻikoʻi no ka wā e hiki mai ana. ʻIke ʻia, ʻo ia ka pane āna e ʻimi nei! No laila, mai makaʻu i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a kāpae i nā kāne ʻaʻole koʻikoʻi - inā ʻo ia kāu makemake. Ua hoʻopalau māua ma hope o ʻeiwa mahina a laila male ʻeiwa mahina ma hope o kēlā a ua male ʻia ma kahi o hoʻokahi makahiki. —Alex P., 29, Manchester, Nu Hampshire
9. E hōʻoia i ka maopopo o kāu mau kumu waiwai ma mua
Ua liʻiliʻi koʻu makemake e hoʻāʻo e pili ana i ka app-based dating a ʻaʻole wau i lele i ka bandwagon a hiki i ka wā ma hope o ka pāʻani no ka mea he mea nui koʻu manaʻoʻiʻo iaʻu a ʻaʻole wau i ʻike pehea e kānana ai i nā kāne ʻaʻole. kaʻana like i kēlā waiwai nui. Ua hālāwai au me Franz ma hope o ʻelua pule o ka noho ʻana ma Bumble, a ua hoʻoholo mākou e hui no ka tacos ma hope o ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma ka app no kekahi mau hola no ka mea ʻelua i mua e pili ana i ko mākou manaʻoʻiʻo he hapa nui o ko mākou ola. ʻO ka ʻōlelo aʻo aʻu e hāʻawi aku ai i koʻu mau hoa online daters e hōʻoia ʻoe i ka maopopo a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i kāu mau mea haki nui, a ʻaʻole hoʻi e kaumaha i kāu mau kumu waiwai a me nā manaʻoʻiʻo no kekahi. Ua pili māua ʻo Franz no ʻekolu makahiki ma hope o kēlā, a laila male i ka mahina i hala! Noho pū mākou me kā mākou mau pōpoki, ʻo Tuna a me Wasabi. —Alexandra V., 28, Sacramento, Kaleponi
10. E mālama i nā wahi kamaʻilio hoihoi no nā lā maoli
ʻO kaʻu mau kūleʻa nui loa me nā lā maoli aʻu i hālāwai ai ma nā polokalamu ma ka neʻe ʻana i nā mea mai kaʻu kelepona i ke ola maoli i ka hikiwawe. E hoʻololi i kekahi mau leka e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ai ua palekana a hoihoi ʻoe, a laila e hoʻolālā i kahi hoʻolālā e ʻike koke i kekahi i kekahi. ʻO kekahi mau manawa aʻu i hoʻohana ai i nā pule me ka leka uila a i ʻole ka leka uila ʻana me kekahi mea aʻu i ʻike ʻole ai, a i ka manawa a mākou i hui ai, ua manaʻo ʻia ua hana mākou i nā nīnau a pau e ʻike ai iā ʻoe ma ka pūnaewele, a ua hāʻule loa ia. . ʻO kekahi mea i hoihoi koke iaʻu i kaʻu kāne hoʻopalau, ʻo ia, ma hope o kekahi mau leka, ua nīnau koke ʻo ia iaʻu me kahi wahi a me kahi manawa. ʻO kona manaʻo hoʻoholo a me kona manaʻo maopopo he mea hōʻoluʻolu. Hiki i nā kānaka ke hoʻokahi-dimensional ma nā polokalamu. ʻO ka hāʻawi ʻana i kekahi i ka pōmaikaʻi o ka ʻike ʻana i ke kiʻi piha i ke kanaka ke ala maikaʻi loa e hoʻonohonoho ai iā ʻoe iho no ka holomua. —Megan G., 27, New York City
11. E hoomaha
ʻOiaʻiʻo, manaʻo wau ʻo ka mea helu hoʻokahi e hoʻomau i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana akā mai makaʻu ʻoe e hoʻomaha mai ka pilina pūnaewele inā pono ʻoe. Ua like koʻu nānā ʻana ma lalo o kēlā me kēia pōhaku e ʻike ai i kaʻu kāne a ua luhi, no laila pono wau e haʻalele i hoʻokahi pule a i ʻole i kēlā me kēia manawa. ʻO ka hana hou ʻana o kēlā mau lā mua i ʻike ʻole ʻia i kekahi manawa, ʻoluʻolu ʻole a i ʻole ʻino pololei i waiho ʻia iaʻu me ka ʻeha. Ua haʻalele au i kekahi mau lā maikaʻi ʻole! Akā ʻaʻole wau i haʻalele i ka lā aʻu i hele ai me kaʻu hoa i ka wā e hiki mai ana-ua male mākou i hoʻokahi makahiki i kēia manawa-no ka mea ua hāʻawi wau iaʻu iho i manawa e hui hou ai ma hope o ka hewa e mahalo i ka maikaʻi. —Jess A., 43, Baltimore
12. E kamaʻilio me kāu mau hoaaloha e pili ana i nā kiʻekiʻe kiʻekiʻe a me nā haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa
ʻO kaʻu ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no kēlā me kēia mea e au ana, e ʻauʻau ana a e luʻu ana paha i loko o ka pūnāwai pili pūnaewele, ʻoi aku ka moana ma mua o ka loko. Pono nā mea a pau e hana, a pono mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana. E kamaʻilio me kāu mau hoaaloha! E kaʻana like i kou mau manaʻo kaumaha, kou hopohopo, kou hauʻoli, nā haʻahaʻa a me ka piʻi ʻana, ʻoi aku hoʻi i ka wā e manaʻo ai he hopena make nui no ka mea paʻakikī ke hoʻomau i ka hana i ka wā e hoʻonāwaliwali ai. ʻO ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana iā ia he olakino—ma ka naʻau a me ka noʻonoʻo. Malia paha e hele ana kekahi mea āu i ʻike ai i ka mea like a i ʻole he 'hiki iaʻu ke hoʻokiʻekiʻe i kēlā' moʻolelo lā weliweli e ʻakaʻaka ai ʻoe. ʻO ka manaʻo, aia kahi stigma e pili ana i ka launa pūnaewele ʻaʻole pono ma laila no ka mea ʻaʻole kēia he manaʻo hou. —Kailah B., 32, Albany, New York
PILI: Ka pilina ma hope o 40? Eia nā mea a pau e pono ai ʻoe e ʻike
