I kou lawe ʻana i ka nīnau ʻōlelo Aloha i kekahi mau makahiki i hala aku nei a ʻike ʻoe he hana lawelawe kāu a he mau ʻōlelo hōʻoia a kāu hoa, he mea hoʻololi pāʻani piha ia no ʻoe ma ke ʻano he kāne (e hōʻike i kāu kāne i ka holoi lole i kēlā me kēia Lāpule a ke hoʻomaikaʻi nei ʻoe i kona akamai pelupelu ʻoi). Hiki paha i ka manaʻo hoʻokahi ke kōkua iā ʻoe me kāu mau keiki? Paʻi mākou Kauka Bethany Cook , kanaka kālaiʻike kino a me ka mea kākau o He aha ka waiwai - he manaʻo no ka holomua a ola ʻana i ka makua , no kāna ʻōlelo aʻo e pili ana i ka ʻike ʻana i ka ʻōlelo aloha a kāu keiki—a me ke kumu o ia mea. (E hoʻomanaʻo: ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma lalo nei no nā keiki 5 makahiki a keu.)
nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni kiʻekiʻe no nā ʻōpio makua
He aha hou nā ʻōlelo aloha?
Hoʻokomo ʻia e ke kākāʻōlelo male a me ka mea kākau ʻo Dr. Gary Chapman i kāna puke 1992, ʻO 5 ʻŌlelo Aloha , ʻo ka manaʻo ma hope o nā ʻōlelo aloha, ʻo ia ka hoʻomaopopo a kamaʻilio i nā mea e pono ai ke aloha ʻia ke kanaka. E komo i nā ʻōlelo aloha like ʻole ʻelima: nā huaʻōlelo o ka hōʻoia, ka manawa maikaʻi, ka loaʻa ʻana o nā makana, ka pā kino a me nā hana lawelawe.
No ke aha he mea nui e ʻike i ka ʻōlelo aloha a kāu keiki?
Ke manaʻo nei nā keiki i ke aloha ʻaʻole wale ia e hoʻoikaika i ko lākou manaʻo ponoʻī, akā hāʻawi pū kekahi iā lākou i ke kahua paʻa a me ke ʻano palekana i hiki iā lākou ke ʻimi piha i ka honua a puni lākou, wehewehe ʻo Kauka Cook. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e ʻōlelo wale nei i ka makemake o kāu keiki e holo a puni ke kahua pāʻani - pili pū kēia ʻano palekana i ka ʻimi ʻana a me ka hoʻomohala ʻana i nā pilina me nā hoa, nā ʻohana ʻē aʻe a me nā hoaaloha. Ke ʻike ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo aloha kikoʻī a kāu keiki (a i ʻole kā lākou ʻelua ʻelua), hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokaʻawale i kou ikaika i nā hana e hōʻike ana i kā lākou 'ōlelo.' Lawe kēia i ka manaʻo kuhi a ʻo ia hoʻi ke paʻi nei kāu mau hana i ka pae kiʻekiʻe o ka pōmaikaʻi. .
He kōkua nui kēia ʻike inā pilikia kāu keiki i kekahi mea. Inā ʻike ʻoe i ke ʻano o kā lākou ʻōlelo aloha a laila e loaʻa iā ʻoe nā ʻano kikoʻī i loko o kāu ʻeke hope āu e ʻike ai hiki ke kōkua iā lākou e aloha (a me ka manaʻolana e hoʻololi i ko lākou ʻano). ʻO ia hoʻi, ʻo ka ʻike ʻana i ka ʻōlelo aloha a kāu keiki e kōkua iā ʻoe e launa pū me lākou a hiki ke maʻalahi ka makua.
Pehea wau e ʻike ai i ka ʻōlelo aloha ʻelima e makemake ai kaʻu keiki?
Eia ʻelua ala e ʻike ai i ka ʻōlelo aloha a kāu keiki:
- Hoʻopili i ka 100 pakeneka i kā lākou hana makemake (e like me ke kūkulu ʻana me Magna-Tiles, heluhelu pū i puke a hele wāwae paha). He manawa pōkole kēia (e ʻōlelo, 10 mau minuke) akā e hoʻomaopopo pono e hāʻawi iā lākou i kou nānā ʻole ʻia.
- E hoʻokaʻawale i kahi ʻāpana manawa i hoʻokahi manawa i ka pule e loaʻa iā mākou ka manawa a hoʻolālā pū i loko o ka pule i kāu mea e hana ai, e like me ka kuke ʻana i ka keke a i ʻole. hana i kekahi mau hana lima .
- E nānā pū i kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni.
- E hōʻike i kāu keiki ua kāpae ʻoe i kāu mau hoʻolālā (i hoʻokahi manawa) ke kū mai nā paio e hana i kā lākou hana ma mua o kāu.
- ʻAʻohe manawa e noho pū me kāu keiki no ka manawa hoʻopaʻa kūikawā i kēia pule? ʻAe, hiki mai. I kekahi manawa e pili ana i ke kaʻana like ʻana i ka wahi like, wahi a Kauka Cook. E ho'āʻo e noho i loko o ko lākou lumi i ka wā e hana ana i kekahi hana (inā he kelepona hana a i ʻole ka pelu ʻana i ka lole) oiai lākou e pāʻani ana.
- I kēlā me kēia manawa, e hana i kekahi o nā hana a kāu mau keiki e like me ka lawe ʻana i ka ʻōpala, ka hana kīʻaha a i ʻole ka hana ʻana i ko lākou wahi moe. (E hōʻoia e hana ana lākou i kā lākou hana he 90 pakeneka a ʻoi aku paha o ka manawa!)
- Hoʻopiha i ke kinoea i loko o ke kaʻa o kāu ʻōpio.
- E hoʻomaʻamaʻa i nā lole o kāu keiki i loko o ka mea maloʻo i ke kakahiaka ma kahi lā anu.
- E hoʻololi i nā pila o kahi mea pāʻani naha.
- E kōkua iā lākou i kahi papahana kula.
- Hāʻawi i ka puliki.
- E kūʻai i nā pulupulu pena bristle ʻokoʻa a pena i ko lākou mau lima, kua a me nā wāwae (hiki ke hana ʻia i loko o ka ʻauʻau a i ʻole ke nānā ʻana i ke TV).
- Hāʻawi i kahi ʻomi poʻohiwi mālie i kou hele ʻana ma mua.
- E paʻa lima i kou hele ʻana.
- Honi i kāu keiki ma ka poho lima (e like me ka in Ka Lima Honi puke).
- E kāhāhā iā lākou me kā lākou meaʻai punahele ke hele i nā hale kūʻai.
- E ʻike i kahi mea kūikawā ma ke ʻano (e like me ka pōhaku maʻemaʻe a i ʻole ka lau ʻulaʻula) a hāʻawi iā lākou.
- Hoʻopili i kahi mea pāʻani poina a aloha ʻia me kahi memo e kaʻana like ana i kahi hoʻomanaʻo kikoʻī iā lākou a me ka pāʻani.
- E hōʻiliʻili i nā pua ʻāhiu e hōʻike iā lākou ma hope o ka hele wāwae.
- E hana i kahi palapala paʻi kiʻi a hāʻawi i kāu keiki i kahi sticker a i ʻole hōkū i ka manawa āu e manaʻo ai he pono lākou e manaʻo nui ʻia.
- E waiho i kahi leka hoʻoikaika no lākou i kā lākou ʻaina awakea.
- E hoʻolohe lākou iā ʻoe e kamaʻilio maikaʻi ana e pili ana iā lākou i kekahi (he holoholona pipi paha kēia).
- E haʻi i nā ʻōlelo hōʻoia me lākou i kēlā me kēia lā (e like me koʻu wiwo ʻole a i ʻole hiki iaʻu ke hana i nā mea paʻakikī).
- Kāhea a leka uila iā lākou me ka ʻōlelo hoʻoikaika.
- E ʻōlelo pinepine wau i ke aloha iā ʻoe a me ke kaula ʻole (ʻo ia hoʻi, mai ʻōlelo wau aloha wau iā ʻoe akā…).
Pehea e hoʻopiʻi ai i ka ʻōlelo aloha o kāu keiki
Ka manawa maikaʻi
pehea e wehe mau ai i nā pōʻai ʻeleʻele a puni nā maka
Inā piʻi ka manaʻo ponoʻī a me ka ʻano o kāu keiki ke hoʻolilo ʻoe i ka manawa 1:1, a laila hiki i kāna ʻōlelo aloha ke manawa kūpono. E hoʻoikaika i kēia ma ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i nā manawa kikoʻī i loko o ka pule ʻo ia kou manawa kūikawā me lākou, ʻōlelo ʻo Kauka Cook. Eia kekahi mau manaʻo e hoʻomaka ai.
Hana lawelawe
E ʻōlelo paha ʻoe i kekahi lā e kōkua i kāu keiki e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ko lākou lumi a i ʻole e hana i kāna mau kuki kokoleka punahele no ka mea wale nō—ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli o kāu keiki (ʻO ʻoe ka mea maikaʻi, makuahine!)? ʻO nā hana lawelawe paha kā lākou ʻōlelo aloha. Eia kekahi mau ala e hōʻike ai iā lākou i kou manaʻo nui.
Hoʻopā kino
Inā ʻike ʻoe i ka hana ʻino ʻana o kāu keiki (ke kamaʻilio ʻana, ka hahau ʻana, ka paʻi ʻana, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe) mālie ʻo ia ke paʻa ʻoe iā ia, a laila ʻo ka hoʻopā kino ʻana i kā lākou ʻōlelo aloha, wahi a Kauka Cook. No ka pale ʻana i nā hoʻoheheʻe nui, ʻōlelo ʻo ia e hāʻawi i ka paʻi aloha i nā mea liʻiliʻi a nui i nā manawa hiki. Eia nā manaʻo ʻehā no ka hana pololei ʻana.
pehea e wehe ai i nā pimples maka
Hāʻawi makana
E ʻike ʻia, mahalo ʻia, hoʻomanaʻo ʻia a aloha ʻia ke keiki i kāna ʻōlelo aloha ke lawe ʻoe iā ia mai nā makana liʻiliʻi a i nā makana nui, wahi a Kauka Cook. Hiki paha iā lākou ke hoʻolei i nā mea i hāʻawi ʻia iā lākou (ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole lākou i hoʻohana iā lākou i nā makahiki). Mai hopohopo, ʻaʻole ia manaʻo he pono ʻoe e hoʻokaʻawale i nā haneli kālā e hōʻike i kāu keiki aloha ʻoe iā lākou - ʻaʻole pili ka hāʻawi makana i ka nui o ke kumukūʻai, no ka manaʻo o kou noʻonoʻo ʻana iā lākou i ko lākou wā ʻōpio. ʻaʻole me ʻoe. Eia kekahi mau ala e hōʻike ai i ke aloha ma o ka hāʻawi makana.
Nā ʻōlelo hōʻoia
E haʻi aku ʻoe i kāu keiki i kou haʻaheo iā lākou no ke aʻo ikaika ʻana a i ʻole ua hana maikaʻi lākou i ka mālama ʻana i ko lākou kaikuahine liʻiliʻi a ʻālohilohi ko lākou mau maka i ka hauʻoli - aloha, nā ʻōlelo hōʻoia. Hoʻoikaika kāu mau ʻōlelo iā lākou e hoʻomau i ka hana ma nā ala maikaʻi a maikaʻi hoʻi, wahi a Kauka Cook. Eia kekahi mau manaʻo no ka hōʻike ʻana i ke keiki e holomua ana mai nā manaʻo ʻōlelo maikaʻi i kona aloha.
pehea e wehe ai i kahakai
