ʻO Grou p Chat aia i loko o ka kolamu ʻōlelo aʻo o kēlā me kēia pule o The Know, kahi e pane ai kā mākou mea hoʻoponopono i kāu mau nīnau e pili ana i ka pili ʻana, ka pilina, ka ʻohana, ka ʻoihana pūnaewele a me nā mea ʻē aʻe. He nīnau no ke kamaʻilio ʻana? Waiho mai ma ʻaneʻi me ka inoa ʻole a e hana mākou i ka mea maikaʻi loa e pane.
Aloha, kamaʻilio pūʻulu,
Ma mua pono o ka hana kuʻikahi, ua hoʻopaʻa kekahi o kaʻu mau hoaaloha maikaʻi loa a noi mai iaʻu e lilo i wahine mare. ʻAʻole makemake ʻo ia e hoʻopalau lōʻihi, no laila ua hoʻolālā koke ʻo ia e hana i kahi pāʻina hoʻopaʻa i kēia ʻAukake a me ka male ʻana i kekahi mau mahina ma hope o Nowemapa. ʻOiai ua hauʻoli wau i ka wā mua e pili ana i nā hoʻolālā male ʻana, i kēia manawa ke hopohopo nei ka manaʻo o ka hele ʻana i kahi pāʻina. Ke hoʻomaka nei nā mokuʻāina e wehe hou, akā ʻaʻole naʻe wau i ka palekana i ka hele ʻana i kahi pāʻina me 60-nui ka poʻe, ʻoiai ke hele mai kekahi o lākou mai nā mokuʻāina a me nā ʻāina ʻē aʻe.
Ma ke ʻano he wahine mare, manaʻo wau he ʻano ʻē ka haʻi ʻana i koʻu hoaaloha ʻaʻole wau makemake e hele i kāna pāʻina hoʻopaʻa. Eia naʻe, pono e hele mua koʻu olakino, a ke manaʻo nei au ʻaʻole palekana i ka pili ʻana i nā poʻe he nui i kēia manawa. He pupule anei au? Pehea wau e wehewehe ai i koʻu hoaaloha ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hele i kāna pāʻina hoʻopaʻa ʻana ke ʻike au i ke ʻano o ia mea iā ia? ʻO ka mea hope aʻu e makemake ai, ʻo ka hoʻopau ʻia ko kāua pilina ma kēia.
— Me ke aloha, Weliweli Wahine
ʻO ka manawa lei aliʻi 2 ʻāpana 9
Aloha TB,
Lisa Azcona , ka mea i loaʻa i kahi kelepona weliweli mai kahi hoaaloha pili me ka pilikia like i kēia mahina, wahi a - ʻO ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana (a me ka male!) He mea nani a hoihoi hoʻi e hoʻolauleʻa ai. Eia nō naʻe, ua hoʻololi ka pilikia olakino o ka honua i ka mea maʻamau i ka hoʻoholo ʻae-i-a-puʻuwai i mea e pili ana i ka noʻonoʻo a me ka noʻonoʻo mua. E hilinaʻi mai iaʻu i kaʻu ʻōlelo ʻana i kēia: ʻAʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi a ua kūpono loa kou mau manaʻo. Mahalo wau iā ʻoe no ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i kou olakino. I ka hana ʻana pēlā, ʻaʻole ʻoe e noʻonoʻo wale i ke olakino o kāu poʻe aloha, akā no nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a puni ʻoe.
Me he mea lā e paʻakikī ana ke kamaʻilio ʻana (ʻaʻohe mea makemake e ʻike i kā lākou ʻoi aku ka huhū), manaʻo wau e wehe koke i nā laina kamaʻilio ma waena o ʻolua. I kāu kamaʻilio ʻana, he mea nui e kamaʻilio ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻo kou kānalua, ʻo ia hoʻi, he hōʻailona o kāna manaʻo iā ʻoe.
Inā hoʻoholo ʻoe ʻaʻole e hele, manaʻo wau he manaʻo maikaʻi paha ia e hōʻike i kāu mea aloha, ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻoe ma ke kino, ke noʻonoʻo nei ʻoe iā ia i kēlā lā kūikawā. E noʻonoʻo e hana i kahi papahana DIY e hōʻike ana i kāu hoaaloha weliweli - hiki ke hōʻike ʻia ma ka pāʻina a i ʻole e loaʻa i ke kakahiaka. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻonohonoho a kāhāhā ʻike maka ma ka pāʻina ma ka pā nui a i ʻole ka projector. Inā loaʻa kekahi mea a mākou i aʻo ai i kēia manawa ʻano ʻē, ʻo ia ka mea hiki ke hoʻomanaʻo ʻia ka hoʻolauleʻa virtual.
ʻO Morgan Greenwald, ka mea (manaʻolana) e male i 2021, ʻōlelo - Ma ke ʻano he wahine mare a he wahine mare i kekahi mau male e hiki mai ana (ʻoiai ua hoʻopaneʻe ʻia), maopopo iaʻu ke ʻano o kou huhū i kēia manawa. Makemake ʻoe i ka lā kūikawā o kāu hoaaloha e manaʻo kūikawā, akā i ka manawa like, ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e ʻālana i kou palekana e hana kūikawā.
ʻOiai ke hoʻomaka nei kekahi mau mokuʻāina e hōʻoluʻolu i nā mea paʻa a ʻae i ka hōʻuluʻulu ʻana o waho, aia iā ʻoe inā ʻoluʻolu ʻoe i ka hele ʻana i nā hanana i ʻōlelo ʻia - ʻoiai inā he 60 mau kānaka ma laila. Inā ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole e loli kou mau manaʻo a ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻoluʻolu i ka hele ʻana i ka pāʻina hoʻopaʻa ʻana o kāu hoaaloha, e ʻoiaʻiʻo wau iā ia ma mua o ka wā e hiki ai iā ia ke hoʻonohonoho e like me ia.
Inā he hoaaloha ʻoiaʻiʻo kēia, e hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia i kou wahi i hele mai ai a kākoʻo iā ʻoe e kau mua i kou olakino a palekana. Ke hoʻomaka hou nā mea maʻamau (manaʻolana koke - ʻaʻa nā manamana lima), hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻolālā i kahi hoʻolauleʻa liʻiliʻi hou nona me kāna mau wahine mare ʻē aʻe - he brunch a i ʻole kahi paka paha!
AmiLin McClure , ka mea i lilo i wahine mare i kekahi manawa, wahi a - E like nō koʻu manaʻo! Manaʻo wau ʻaʻole ʻoe wale nō ka mea i loko o ka pāʻina male e noʻonoʻo nei e hōʻole i ka hele ʻana ma muli o ka maʻi maʻi. ʻO kaʻu ʻōlelo aʻo nui loa kēia: mai kali lōʻihi e haʻi i kāu hoaaloha inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hele. Me he mea lā ua hoʻoholo ʻoe e hele mua kou olakino, ʻo ia ka naʻauao ma kāu ʻaoʻao.
Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hōʻoiaʻiʻo i ka wahine mare e hoʻopaneʻe loa i ka pāʻina i hiki i kona mau hoaaloha a me kona ʻohana ke hele a pau me ka ʻole o ko lākou olakino. Manaʻo wau he mea palekana ke ʻōlelo aku ʻaʻole makemake kāu hoaaloha e maʻi kekahi o kāna mau mea aloha. ʻO ka mea nui aʻe, manaʻo wau he mea kōkua ka haʻi ʻana i kou hopohopo i ʻike ʻo ia i hea ʻoe e hele mai ai, a ʻo ka hana mua ʻana, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
Ina oia loa ʻaʻole e hoʻonohonoho hou i ka pāʻina, manaʻo wau e hana i kahi hoʻolauleʻa hoʻolauleʻa ʻē aʻe no ʻolua wale nō. Ma kēia ala, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohanohano i kēia manawa kūikawā i kona ola - me ka ʻole o 60 mau kānaka a puni ʻoe. Ma ke ʻano he hoaaloha pili, maopopo iaʻu e hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia.
lāʻau kūlohelohe no ka hāʻule ʻana o ka lauoho
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Dillon Thompson, ʻaʻole i kono ʻia i kahi pāʻina me 60-nui ka poʻe - Ma ke ʻano he kāne hoʻokahi, ʻo ka mea kokoke loa i loaʻa iaʻu he wahine mare ʻo ia kaʻu nānā hou ʻana i ka Wedding Crashers i ka hopena pule i hala. ʻO kēlā ʻōlelo, ʻaʻole wau i manaʻo he pili kēia pilikia i ka male. Ua ʻōlelo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho: Pono kou olakino e hele mua. He ʻoiaʻiʻo inā paha mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kahi pāʻina hoʻopaʻa ʻana, ʻauʻau pēpē a i ʻole ka hana puka.
Inā hopohopoʻoe no kou palekana, a laila ponoʻoe eʻoiaʻiʻo. E haʻi i kāu hoaaloha i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i kēia manawa, a e kamaʻilio pololei i kāu mea e ʻoluʻolu ai. Inā hopohopo ʻoe e pili ana i kāna hana ʻana, e kipa aku paha i nā wahine mare ʻē aʻe a ʻike i kahi o ko lākou mau poʻo. ʻO ka hope loa, pono ʻoe e kūʻē i kāu hoaaloha - a inā makemake nui ʻo ia e hoʻokomo iā ʻoe i kāna male ʻana, hiki iā ia ke hoʻomaopopo i kou ʻano.
ʻO Alex Lasker, nāna i loaʻa ekolu hoa hoʻopanee i ka male ʻana i kēia makahiki, wahi a - Ua hoʻonohonoho ʻia wau e lilo i wahine mare (ʻo koʻu manawa mua!) i kekahi o kaʻu hoaaloha maikaʻi loa i kēia kauwela a hiki i kona hoʻopanee ʻana i ka hanana a hiki i 2021, a ke manaʻo nei au ʻo kāna kumu no ka mea e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi mālamalama ma aneʻi.
ʻIke ʻoe, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i makemake i ke kaʻina holoʻokoʻa e hiki ai i kāna male ʻana he moeʻuhane a pōʻino i kona mau hoaaloha a me kona ʻohana - ka pāʻina hoʻopaʻa, ka hopena pule bachelorette, ka ʻauʻau male, etc. e pale i ka hoʻokomo ʻana i nā malihini i kou kūlana pololei. Ua kaumaha loa ka holoi ʻana i kēlā mau hanana a pau mai kaʻu kalena, akā he mea hōʻoluʻolu nō hoʻi i ka ʻike ʻana e noʻonoʻo ana koʻu hoa aloha i kāna mau mea aloha ʻoiai ʻo ia i hana ai i kekahi o nā hoʻoholo paʻakikī loa āna i hana ai.
Malia paha he Nancy maikaʻi ʻole wau ma ʻaneʻi, akā manaʻo wau he mea paʻakikī loa ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i kahi pāʻina hoʻopaʻa ʻana a i ʻole kahi male i kēia manawa - a manaʻo wau ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e manaʻo hewa no ka emi ʻana o ka hele ʻana. ʻO ka nūhou maikaʻi, ua ʻike ʻoe i ka manaʻo paʻa i kāu hoʻoholo ʻaʻole e hele. ʻO nā mea a pau āu e hana ai i kēia manawa, ʻo ia ke haʻi aku i ka wahine mare me ka lokomaikaʻi, e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole kēia he mea iā ʻoe makemake e hana, he mea ia oe loaʻa e hana e pale aku ia oe iho. Inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hoʻomaopopo a ʻae paha i kāu kelepona (ʻo ia hoʻi, ke kūpono, ke hilinaʻi nui nei au e hana ʻo ia), a laila ʻo ia ka manawa kiʻekiʻe e loiloi hou i kāu pilina.
TL;DR — E ka wahine mare, ʻaʻole ʻoe pupule iki, e ʻoluʻolu e hilinaʻi i kou puʻuwai ma kēia mea. ʻO 60-mau kānaka he a hailona i kēia manawa kūpono i ka manawa, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kā mākou hoʻi hou ʻana i nā hangouts i loko o ke kanaka (me nā mālama palekana kūpono, ʻoiaʻiʻo.) ʻO ka ʻōlelo ʻana, ʻo kou hoaaloha ka manawa i kēia manawa - akā ʻaʻole ia ma hope. E haʻi koke i ka wahine mare: E ʻoki ʻoe e like me ke kāʻei ʻaʻole ʻoe e hele mai. ʻOiaʻiʻo, e hōʻeha ia, akā e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻoe ua kau ʻoe i kahi ton o ka noʻonoʻo i kēia hoʻoholo koʻikoʻi a ʻaʻole i hoʻoholo wale ʻaʻole e hele i kahi manawa hoʻokahi pule ma mua o ka pāʻina.
Inā makemake ʻoe i kēia ʻatikala, e nānā i kā mākou hope Kūkākūkā hui , a kaomi maanei e waiho i kāu nīnau ponoʻī.
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