Hiki ke hana ʻia nā ʻano mea ʻē aʻe ke pani ʻoe i kou mau maka: hāʻule nā niho ma kahi pāʻina ʻaina, nā kaʻa kaʻa ʻole, a ʻae, ʻo nā arachnids weliweli. No laila, mai hopohopo inā ua lilo kou hoʻomaha pō maikaʻi i kiʻi ʻoniʻoni Fellini i kēia mau lā - ʻo ia ke ʻano e hōʻike ana i nā mea ʻewalu wāwae i kono ʻole ʻia. He wahi paʻakikī kāu subconscious no laila ʻaʻohe wehewehe hoʻokahi no nā spider i nā moeʻuhane. Ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana i kēlā, ua hoʻopili mākou i kekahi mau loea moeʻuhane e kiʻi i ka haʻahaʻa i ka mea hiki ʻo ia hoʻi inā loaʻa iā ʻoe nā spiders i kāu mau moeʻuhane, no laila e heluhelu no ka piha piha.
PILI: 9 MOEUEE MAU A ME KA MEA I MANAOIA
He aha ka manaʻo o nā moeʻuhane e pili ana i nā Spider?
No laila, ua komo mai kekahi mau malihini wāwae ʻewalu i kou lolo ma hope o ka hola. (Ua hiki.) Akā, he aha ka manaʻo i ka wā i loaʻa ai iā ʻoe kahi moeʻuhane weliweli-a ʻoi aku paha ka huikau, kahi moeʻuhane ʻoluʻolu me kahi spider i loko? ʻAe, ua ʻike ʻia ʻaʻole ʻoki a maloʻo ka pane. Ma keʻano laulā, ua ʻae ka poʻe akamai he mau ʻike pilikino nui nā moeʻuhane, a ʻo ia mau hōʻailona e waiho i kahi nui no ka wehewehe ʻana. He poʻe pilikino koʻikoʻi mākou a pau, me nā ʻike holoʻokoʻa, ka mōʻaukala, nā hopena moʻomeheu, nā makemake, a me nā hui e kala i ka manaʻo o nā moeʻuhane, wehewehe ka psychologist. Nancy Irwin . ʻO kēlā ʻōlelo, eia kekahi mau kumuhana maʻamau i koho ʻia e ka poʻe pros.
1. Ke ʻimi nei ʻoe i kāu mea hoʻolālā i loko (a i ʻole hoʻopunipuni)
Ke noʻonoʻo nei ʻoe i kahi spider ma ke ʻano o kahi totem holoholona ʻoiai e noʻonoʻo ana i kāna ʻano ma ke ʻano, hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa ka ʻike maikaʻi aʻe o kāna hōʻailona i kāu mau moeʻuhane, wahi a ka hypnotherapist a me ka loea moemoeā. Kelly Sullivan Walden . Kuʻi kekahi mau holoholona, hoʻoweliweli kekahi, paʻakikī kekahi-akā, hoʻowalewale ka spider i kāna mea pio ... No ka mea ʻo ʻoe nā mea a pau a me nā mea a pau i loko o kāu moeʻuhane, ʻo nā moeʻuhane o kahi spider [hiki] ke hōʻailona e pili ana ʻoe me ka ʻāpana o ʻoe iho. hoʻolālā, hana, hoʻowalewale a hoʻowalewale. Ke kani ʻana, ʻeā? Inā ʻike ʻia kekahi o kēia mau mea ulana moeʻuhane i ka wā e moe ana ʻoe, e noʻonoʻo ʻoe e hoʻāʻo ana kāu subconscious e haʻi iā ʻoe aia ke ala kūpono i ka wā e hoʻokō ai i kāu mau hoʻolālā paʻakikī.
2. He leka e hoʻokuʻu i nā mea i kou ala
ʻOiaʻiʻo, no Walden, ʻo nā moeʻuhane o kahi spider ka ʻōlelo hope loa e ulana ana ʻoe i kāu mau moeʻuhane i ʻoiaʻiʻo. Ke hoʻohui koke nei kēia loea moeʻuhane ʻo ka lawe ʻana paha ʻo ia kāu koho maikaʻi loa e hoʻokaʻawale i ka hoʻomanawanui o ka spider: No ka ulana ʻana o nā spider i kahi pūnaewele e huki ai i kā lākou meaʻai iā lākou, he ʻōlelo paha kēia moe e hoʻōki i ka holo ʻana, lohi. i lalo, e hoʻonanea i kou wahi a kali i ka ikehu a me ka manaʻo e hiki mai ana iā ʻoe. (Eia kekahi, ʻaʻohe mea e hele i nā wahi ʻē aʻe i kēia mau lā, no laila e ʻōlelo mākou he hoʻolālā maikaʻi loa ia e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ke ola ala.)
3. Aia ma kou manao ka pomaikai
He aha ka pili o nā spiders me ka pōmaikaʻi? ʻAe, ʻaʻohe mea, ʻikea. Hōʻike ʻo Walden he kī nui nō hoʻi ke anatomy o kahi spider i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kona hōʻailona ma nā moeʻuhane, me ka manaʻo ʻana he ʻewalu mau wāwae e like me ka helu ma ke ʻano ākea - ʻo ia hoʻi ka nui, ka pōmaikaʻi a me ka pau ʻole. Ke laina lalo: ʻO ka manaʻo o Walden, ʻaʻole pili i kou manaʻo e pili ana i kēia mau mea ola i ke ola maoli, he hōʻailona maikaʻi paha ke kipa ʻana i ka pō mai kahi spider. A i ʻole, ma ka liʻiliʻi loa, he ʻōlelo e pono ai ʻoe e hahai i kāu mau moeʻuhane (ma mua o ka, e ʻōlelo, e paʻi iā lākou me kahi broom). ʻO kēia mau hoa ʻewalu wāwae ka poʻe ulana moeʻuhane maoli.
4. Ua pilikia ʻoe a paʻa paha
E like me ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma luna nei, ʻo ke ʻano wili pūnaewele o kahi spider e lilo ia i hōʻailona kūpono o ka mana. ʻO kēlā ʻōlelo, ua ʻae ʻo Walden ʻo nā hanana moe āpau he hōʻike ia o ka Self. No laila, hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i ke ʻano o ka spider e ʻike nei ʻo Self i ka wā e nalowale ai ʻoe i ka ʻāina moemoeā. Makemake ʻoe e haʻalele i ka psychoanalysis? (Loaʻa iā mākou.) E nīnau wale iā ʻoe iho inā manaʻo ʻoe e noho nani ana ʻoe i kahi pūnaewele e kali ana i ka kūleʻa a i ʻole ke manaʻo ʻana i ka lolo me ka ambivalence a paʻa i kahi ala (heluhelu: pūnaewele spider).
5. Makau i ka mea i ike ole ia
Wahi a Danielle Massi, LMFT , ʻO nā spiders e hōʻike ana i ka mea i ʻike ʻole ʻia, no laila hiki i kahi mea āu e makaʻu ai ke kolo nei ma luna ou a ke hāʻawi nei ka noʻonoʻo ʻike ʻole iā ʻoe. ʻO kēlā ʻōlelo, ʻōlelo ʻo Massi ʻo ke kī i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kahi spider i kāu moeʻuhane e nīnau iā ʻoe iho pehea kou manaʻo i ka ʻike ʻana iā ia-no ka mea he manaʻo nā moeʻuhane, ʻo nā manaʻo i hoʻopaʻa ʻia i nā hōʻailona e kōkua iā ʻoe i kahi ʻike.
6. Loaʻa iā ʻoe nā manaʻo huna e pono e hoʻoponopono ʻia
Wahi a Dr. Irwin, ʻaʻole maʻamau nā kiʻi moeʻuhane, akā he mea hoʻohālikelike e huki i kou ʻike i kahi manaʻo āu e ʻike nei i ka manawa o ka moeʻuhane. ʻO ke ʻano o ia mea, hiki i kahi spider i kāu moeʻuhane ke hōʻike i kekahi mau manaʻo e pono ai kou lolo e hoʻoponopono i ka wā e loaʻa ai iā ʻoe kahi maka pani. He ʻoiaʻiʻo maoli kēia inā he makaʻu ʻoe i nā spiders (* hāpai i ka lima *), i ia manawa e hōʻike paha lākou i ke alo o kahi kanaka weliweli i kou ola… mea hiki ole ke hoomaluia i kou ola. Eia hou, ʻo ke koʻikoʻi o kahi spider i kāu moeʻuhane e pili nui ana i nā mea e hana nei i kou ola, a me kou manaʻo e pili ana i nā mea ola. Manaʻo ʻo Irwin ʻo ka pōʻaiapili nā mea āpau a pono nā kānaka e noʻonoʻo i nā hōʻailona moeʻuhane ma ke ʻano he kono e hoʻopili me ko lākou mau manaʻo (back-burner), i mea e hoʻokuʻu ai a hoʻōla.
7. Ke hōʻike nei ka hopohopo nui iā ia iho
A ma kēlā memo, ʻo ka psychotherapist lapaʻau a me ka lālā kumu kula o Columbia University Laurel Steinberg ʻae: ʻO ka moeʻuhane e pili ana i nā spider hiki ke maʻalahi. ʻOiai he liʻiliʻi lākou i ka nui, he mea weliweli loa nā spiders (a me ka crunchy!). No kēia kumu, ʻo nā moeʻuhane e pili ana i nā spiders e hōʻike ana i ka hopohopo subconscious e pili ana i ka nāwaliwali a me ka ʻole o ka mana o kekahi ʻano o ko mākou ola. Kamaʻāina ke kani? ʻAe, ʻoi aku ma mua o hoʻokahi ʻoihana ka manaʻo like i kēia hōʻailona moeʻuhane, ʻaʻole ia he mea kupanaha - he mea maʻamau ka hopohopo nui a ua ʻike ʻia. ma ka pii ana mai ka wā i loaʻa ai ka maʻi maʻi. ʻO kēlā ʻōlelo, inā hoʻomaka ia e hoʻopilikia i kou maikaʻi o ke ola-ma ka mālama ʻana iā ʻoe e ala a hāʻawi iā ʻoe i nā moeʻuhane koʻikoʻi, no ka laʻana-pono ʻoe e kamaʻilio me kekahi e pili ana ia mea.
