Ke pili i ka pāʻani ʻana o kāu keiki, ʻike ʻia ʻaʻole ia he leʻaleʻa a me nā pāʻani wale nō. Wahi a sociologist Mildred Parten Newhall , ʻeono mau papa pāʻani ʻokoʻa mai ka wā kamaliʻi a hiki i ke kula kamaliʻi—a hāʻawi kēlā me kēia i ka manawa no kāu keiki e aʻo ai i nā haʻawina koʻikoʻi e pili ana iā ia iho a me ka honua. ʻO ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana iā ʻoe iho i kēia mau ʻano pāʻani like ʻole hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hōʻoluʻolu i ke ʻano o kāu keiki (E, he mea maʻamau kēlā nānā kaʻaahi!) a me ka ʻike pehea e launa pū ai me ia.
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E hoʻomanaʻo i ka hauʻoli o kāu keiki ʻelua a ʻelua makahiki e noho ana ma kahi kihi a pāʻani me kona mau wāwae? ʻOiai ʻaʻole paha ʻo ia e hana nui ana i kekahi mea, ua paʻa maoli kāu keiki i ka lawe ʻana i ka honua a puni ia ( ʻooh, manamana wāwae!) a me ka nana ana. ʻO ka pāʻani ʻole kahi hana koʻikoʻi e hoʻonohonoho iā ia no ka wā pāʻani e hiki mai ana (a ʻoi aku ka ikaika). No laila, e mālama paha i kēlā mau mea pāʻani makamae no ka wā e makemake nui ai ʻo ia.
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Ke pāʻani nui kāu keiki i ʻike ʻole ʻo ia i kekahi, ua komo ʻoe i ke kahua pāʻani mehameha a kūʻokoʻa paha, e hōʻike pinepine ʻia ana ma kahi o nā makahiki ʻelua a ʻekolu. ʻOkoʻa loa kēia ʻano pāʻani ma muli o ke keiki, akā aia paha ke noho mālie kāu keiki liʻiliʻi me kahi puke a pāʻani paha me kāna holoholona punahele punahele. Aʻo ka pāʻani kaʻawale i nā keiki pehea e leʻaleʻa ai iā lākou iho a lawa pono iā ʻoe iho (me ka hāʻawi ʻana iā ʻoe i kahi manawa koʻikoʻi iā ʻoe iho).
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Inā nānā ʻo Lucy i nā keiki ʻē aʻe e holo i ka slide 16 mau manawa akā ʻaʻole komo i ka leʻaleʻa, mai hopohopo e pili ana i kāna mau mākau pilikanaka. Ua komo wale ʻo ia i ke kahua pāʻani o ka mea nānā aku, e hana pinepine ʻia i ka pāʻani hoʻokahi a ʻo ia kahi hana mua koʻikoʻi i ke komo pū ʻana. (E noʻonoʻo e like me ke aʻo ʻana i nā lula ma mua o ka lele ʻana i loko.) Hana maʻamau ka pāʻani o ka mea nānā aku ma kahi o ʻelua a me ka hapa i ka ʻekolu a me ka hapa.
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E ʻike ʻoe aia kāu keiki i kēia māhele (ma waena o nā makahiki ʻelua a me ka hapa a me ʻekolu a me ka hapa) ke pāʻani ʻo ia a me kāna mau hoaaloha i nā mea pāʻani like. pili kekahi i kekahi akā ʻaʻole me kekahi i kekahi. ʻAʻole kēia manaʻo he frenemies lākou. ʻOiaʻiʻo, loaʻa paha iā lākou ka pōleʻa (ʻoiai ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻae ʻia kaʻu mea pāʻani! tantrum—e kala mai). Eia kāna e aʻo nei: Pehea e hoʻololi ai, e hoʻolohe i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a e hoʻohālike i ka ʻano pono a leʻaleʻa paha.
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Ua like ke ʻano o kēia ʻanuʻu me ka pāʻani like ʻole akā ua ʻike ʻia e ka launa pū ʻana o kāu keiki me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe me ka ʻole o ka hui ʻana (a maʻamau ma waena o nā makahiki ʻekolu a me ʻehā). E noʻonoʻo: ʻelua keiki e noho ʻaoʻao ana i ke kūkulu ʻana i ke kūlanakauhale Lego…akā e hana ana ma ko lākou mau hale ponoʻī. He manawa kūpono kēia e hoʻolauna i nā mākau waiwai e like me ka hana hui a me ke kamaʻilio. (E ʻike i ke kūpono o kou hale kiaʻi ma luna o ka hale kiaʻi o Tyler?)
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Ke mākaukau nā keiki e pāʻani pū (e like me ka manawa o ka hoʻomaka ʻana i ke kula ma ʻehā a ʻelima paha makahiki), ua hiki lākou i ka pae hope o ke kumumanaʻo Parten. ʻO kēia ka wā e leʻaleʻa nui ai nā haʻuki hui a i ʻole nā hui pūʻulu (no nā keiki e pāʻani ana a no nā mākua e nānā ana). I kēia manawa ua mākaukau lākou e hoʻohana i nā mākau a lākou i aʻo ai (e like me ka launa pū ʻana, ke kamaʻilio ʻana, ka hoʻoponopono pilikia a me ka launa pū ʻana) i nā wahi ʻē aʻe o ko lākou ola a lilo i poʻe mākua liʻiliʻi (maikaʻi, kokoke).
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