Heluhelu ʻoe 50 Na Malu o Kahinahina. Loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi vibrator . ʻIke ʻoe i ke ʻano o ka kink ... a i ʻole ʻoe? Hoʻopaʻa mākou i kahi mea lapaʻau wahine e kamaʻilio i nā mea āpau kink vs fetish inā makemake ʻoe e ʻimi i hoʻokahi-a i ʻole ʻelua-i loko o ka lumi moe. E hoʻopaʻa iā ʻoe iho i loko, no ka mea ua kokoke e hoʻomaka ka mahu.
No laila, he aha ke ʻano o ka kink?
ʻO ka kink kahi mea e makemake ai kekahi e hana me lākou iho a i ʻole me ka ʻae ʻana me nā hoa, wahi a Rosara Torrisi, PhD mai ka Long Island Institute of Sex Therapy . He mea maʻamau kēia i manaʻo ʻia ma waho o nā hana moe kolohe. ʻO ka kink maʻamau e lawe mai i ka ikehu erotic hou aʻe i ka hālāwai hoʻokamakama, wehewehe ʻo Torrisi (e noʻonoʻo: BDSM, role play a polyamory).
ʻAʻohe mea waiwai, akā naʻe, ʻo ka mea i manaʻo ʻia he kinky. Ka hihia: ʻOiai e manaʻo paha kou makuahōnōwai wahine pēlā nā mea pāʻani moe kolohe He kinky, manaʻo kāu mea maikaʻi iā lākou he vanilla nani.
Loaʻa ia. No laila, he aha ka fetish?
Ua like ka fetish me ke kink, akā ʻo ka ʻokoʻa, he fetish kekahi mea i ka wā e pono ai e loaʻa i ke kanaka e hoʻokō ai i ka hoʻoulu a i ʻole ka leʻaleʻa. Hiki i kēia ke hana (e like me ka moe kolohe ma ka lehulehu) a i ʻole kekahi mea (e like me nā wāwae). ʻO ka mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo ma aneʻi, ʻo ka fetish kahi mea hiki ʻole ke hoʻāla ʻia ke kanaka me ka ʻole—no ka mea, hiki i kekahi poʻe ke noʻonoʻo wale i ka fetish hiki ke lawa a ʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe e pono ke komo maoli i ka mea a i ʻole ka hana ma kekahi ʻano.
E kali, he aha ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka kink a me ka fetish pololei?
Hiki ke hoʻopili ʻia ma waena o kahi kink a me kahi fetish no laila maopopo mākou i ka huikau. Hoʻokaʻawale ʻo Kauka Torrisi i ka ʻokoʻa me he mea lā he mea kekahi makemake e hana a i ʻole he mea kekahi loaʻa e hana i mea e loaa ai ka lealea.
Eia kekahi laʻana: Inā hoʻokahi pō ma kahi moe, lohe ʻole ʻoe i kou mau hoalauna e hele ana a hoʻohuli iā ʻoe, he kinky kēlā. Akā, inā ʻoe pono e hoʻolohe a nānā paha i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e moe kolohe i mea e hoʻāla ai a laila he fetish.
Pehea ʻoe e ʻimi ai i nā kinks a me nā fetishes me ka palekana?
ʻElua mau mea nui e pili ana i ka ʻimi ʻana i nā kinks a me nā fetishes ʻo ka ʻae a me ka hoʻolālā palekana, wahi a Torrisi. ʻO ia ke ʻano o ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hoa hiki iā ʻoe ke hilinaʻi a hana i kāu noiʻi (e like me ke aʻo ʻana pehea e hoʻopaʻa pono ai i kahi puʻupuʻu, no ka laʻana). E hoʻomanaʻo i ka acronym RACK, ʻaʻole ia he fetish akā ke kū nei no ka kink consensual ʻike pilikia. He huaʻōlelo i hoʻohana ʻia i ke kaiāulu kink e hōʻoia i ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka palekana o nā mea āpau.
Aia nā kumuwaiwai maikaʻi loa mai ka poʻe e hana ʻoihana me nā kinks a me nā fetishes, wahi a Torrisi. Manaʻo ʻo ia e nānā Ka Hale Ulaula no nā huahana, nā mea hoʻonaʻauao, noiʻi a me nā mea hou aku. ʻO ka hui pū ʻana i kahi kaiāulu e aʻo hou e pili ana i ka ʻimi palekana ʻana i nā kinks a me nā fetishes he mea nui hoʻi, hoʻohui ʻo ia.
Inā pilikia ʻoe e pili ana i kekahi kink a fetish paha, hiki ke kōkua aku i ke kauka wahine.
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