Inā nīnau nā GP iā mākou i nā nīnau makua i kā mākou nānā makahiki, palekana ke ʻōlelo ʻia ʻo ka manawa pale kekahi o nā kumuhana e hoʻoulu i ka bluff (half-truth, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi). Akā i ka wā e pili ana i ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i nā ʻano media mai ka maikaʻi a i ka maikaʻi ʻole, pehea e hoʻohālikelike ai nā pāʻani wikiō me ka hōʻike maʻamau o nā keiki? ʻAʻole maikaʻi maoli ke ʻano o ka media no nā keiki, a ʻoi aku paha ia ma mua o ke ʻano ʻaʻole ʻino wale nō - ʻoi aku paha ka maikaʻi - ke ʻano o ka hoʻopili ʻana? Maikaʻi paha ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻoiai ʻo ia ka mea e pili ana i nā hoʻoholo makua like ʻole: ʻO ka hopena maikaʻi ʻole a maikaʻi paha nā pāʻani wikiō e pili ana i nā kumu he nui, ʻaʻole ka liʻiliʻi o ke ʻano o ke keiki i nīnau ʻia.
ʻO kēlā ʻōlelo, i ka loaʻa ʻana o kēlā ala kaulike i ka mālama makua a mākou e hoʻoikaika nei, ʻo ka ʻike ka mana. E heluhelu no ka loaʻa ʻana o kekahi mau ʻano o ka naʻauao mai ʻekolu mau makuahine, he ʻōpio a me ke kauka psychologist Kauka Bethany Cook —he ʻōlelo ko lākou a pau e pili ana i nā keiki e pāʻani ana i nā pāʻani wikiō. Hiki ke kōkua ke kiʻi holoʻokoʻa iā ʻoe i kāu hopena ponoʻī.
ʻokoʻa ka lauoho no nā wahine
Ka ʻōlelo a nā Māmā
ʻAʻole hiki ke hōʻole ʻia ka huki ʻana, akā pehea ka manaʻo o nā mākua e pili ana i kēia hoʻololi i lilo i ʻāpana o ke ola o kā lākou mau keiki i kēlā me kēia lā? Nīnau mākou i ʻekolu mau makuahine—Laura (makua i kahi keiki 7 makahiki), Denise (makuahine no nā keiki ʻelua, 8 a me 10 makahiki) a me Addy (makua i kahi keiki 14 makahiki) ma ko lākou wahi e kū ai. Eia kā lākou e ʻōlelo ai.
Nīnau: ʻIke paha ʻoe i ka hiki ke nānā (ʻo ia hoʻi, nā manaʻo addictive) e ulu ana a puni ka pāʻani wikiō? Hiki i ka pilina olakino me ka mea waena?
Laura: E ʻōlelo wau he pilina maikaʻi ko kaʻu keiki me nā pāʻani wikiō. ʻAʻole loa mākou i hana i nā huhū huhū ke hiki i ka manawa e ho'ōki i ka pāʻani ... a noi pinepine ʻo ia i ka TV ma mua o nā pāʻani wikiō, ʻoiaʻiʻo.
Denise: Manaʻo wau ua hoʻolālā ʻia nā pāʻani wikiō i nā keiki addict. No ka laʻana, makemake kaʻu mau keiki i ka pāʻani i kapa ʻia ʻo Roadblocks, a ʻike wau e uku nui ka pāʻani iā lākou [me nā makana, nā helu, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe] no ka pāʻani hou aku.
Addy: ʻO kaʻu keiki he 14 mau makahiki e makaʻala loa i ka ʻenehana. Ma ke ʻano he makuahine hoʻokahi paʻa, maʻalahi ke poina i nā hola i paheʻe me ia. Ke ho'āʻo nei au e hoʻomaopopo i ka maʻalahi o ka lolo ʻōpio, ka mea i hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻole ʻia, e aʻo ʻia e hoʻonui i ka manawa ma luna o ka paepae. A ʻaʻole i manaʻo nui e hiki i kaʻu ʻōpio palupalu ke pale wale aku i ka mea i ulu nui ʻia, ʻoihana ʻoihana nui e hoʻohele iā ia-no ka mea, ʻo kaʻu pane mua ʻana i ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka pāʻani wikiō addictive ʻo ʻoe. Ua hana. HE AHA?
Nīnau: He aha kāu mau hopohopo e pili ana i nā keiki e pāʻani ana i nā pāʻani wikiō a me ke ʻano o ka hoʻoulu ʻana a lākou e hāʻawi ai?
Laura: Aia kekahi mea o ... wale pela ka nui o ka hoʻoulu ʻana, ka uku wikiwiki - ka hauʻoli koke - a ke hopohopo nei au no ia mea no ka mea mamao loa ia mai ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Pāʻani pū mākou i kekahi mau pāʻani ʻano paʻakikī, no laila ʻike wau i ka huhū. Manaʻo wau aia kahi manawa e hana ai i kēlā mau manaʻo, akā inā ʻaʻole mākou i ʻike pehea e kākoʻo ai iā ia, hiki iaʻu ke ʻike i ke ʻano o ka hopena maikaʻi ʻole.
Denise: ʻAʻole wau makemake i ke kiʻekiʻe o ka ʻoluʻolu koke. ʻO ka nui o nā pāʻani e pili pū ana i ka hoʻohana ʻana i ke kālā e kūʻai aku i nā mea a ke manaʻo nei au i ka hopohopo e pili ana i nā keiki i loaʻa kēlā ʻano ʻike kālepa i ka wā ʻōpio. Ma ke ʻano holoʻokoʻa, manaʻo wau ua ʻoi aku ka nui o nā pāʻani wikiō me ka lolo e like me nā hōʻike TV.
Addy: Pono wau e aʻo i ke ala paʻakikī e hoʻonoho i nā palena, a he kūkākūkā mau ia. I ka hoʻomaka ʻana o COVID, no ka laʻana, i ka wā e pili ana ka poʻe āpau i kā mākou hopohopo i ka manawa nui, ʻike wau ua uku ʻo ia i ka nui astronomical i nā kūʻai ʻana i-app me ka hoʻohana ʻana i kahi kāleka hōʻaiʻē aʻu i hoʻopili ai i ka moʻokāki no ka. kau inoa mua. Ma hope o kēlā, ua lawe au i kāna mau pāʻani wikiō no nā mahina, a ke hoʻi hou nei ʻo ia i loko. Pono e hoʻopaʻa ʻia ma nā pahu pāʻani wikiō: ʻAʻole ʻike ka nui o nā mākua i ka nui o nā pāʻani wikiō, ke ʻole ʻoe e haʻalele, e ʻae i ka mea pāʻani e hoʻohana i kahi kāleka hōʻaiʻē (e koi ai lākou no ka pāʻani mua ʻana me ka uku nominal) e kūʻai hou aku i loko o ka app. Ma ke ʻano o ka hana, ʻike wau i ka wā i pāʻani ai ʻo ia i nā pāʻani wikiō me ka ʻole o ka hoʻomaha ʻana, ua huhū ʻo ia a hoʻomanawanui.
Nīnau: Ua kau anei ʻoe i nā lula e pili ana i ka manawa e pāʻani ai i nā pāʻani wikiō, a i ʻole ʻike ʻoe i kāu mau keiki e hoʻoponopono pono iā lākou iho?
Laura: ʻO kā mākou mau lula ʻo ka hiki i kaʻu keiki ke pāʻani no 30 a 45 mau minuke i ka lā inā pāʻani ʻo ia iā ia iho. ʻAʻole mākou e ʻae iā ia e pāʻani ma ka pūnaewele no laila ʻaʻole ʻo ia e launa pū me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ʻoiai ʻo ia e pāʻani ana ... manaʻo wale mākou ua nui loa ka pilikia palekana me ia. No ka mea, ʻae wale mākou iā ia e pāʻani no ka manawa pōkole, ʻōlelo mākou iā ia e hoʻopau iā ia ma mua o ka hana ʻana iā ia iho ...
Denise: Ke hilinaʻi nei mākou i nā manawa ʻike i ʻike nā keiki i ka manawa e hoʻōki ai i ka pāʻani. He kumu nui nō hoʻi nā hana maʻamau i ka hoʻomalu ʻana i ka nui o ka manawa a lākou e hoʻolilo ai i nā pāʻani wikiō.
Addy: I ka loaʻa ʻana o [kaʻu keiki] i kahi ʻoluʻolu pāʻani wikiō hou no ka Kalikimaka, e hoʻokele wau iā ia me ka Pōʻai , kahi ʻano kīkiki hiki iaʻu ke hoʻohana no ka hoʻopau ʻana i kāna mau uila uila ma kahi mamao. ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu he aha kaʻu mau lula no ka wā e hiki mai ana, ke hana nei au me kahi kumu aʻo makua e hoʻomohala i kekahi mau lula e pili ana i nā māka a me nā hana e mālama pū me nā pono pāʻani wikiō.
Nīnau: He aha nā pōmaikaʻi āu e manaʻo ai e hāʻawi mai nā pāʻani wikiō, inā loaʻa?
Laura: Manaʻo wau aia nā pōmaikaʻi e pili ana i ka pāʻani ʻana i nā pāʻani. ʻO nā pāʻani a mākou e pāʻani nei e pili ana i ka hoʻoholo pilikia, ka hoʻokō ʻana i ka pahuhopu. Manaʻo wau he mea maikaʻi loa ia no ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i ka lima-maka — pāʻani ʻo ia i kekahi mau pāʻani tennis. A aia ka hoʻoholo hoʻoholo: I ka pāʻani Pokémon pono ʻo ia e hoʻoholo pehea e hoʻohana ai i kāna mau helu e kūʻai i nā mea hana a mālama i kāna Pokémon. Makemake nō hoʻi au he ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi ma mua o ke kīwī.
Denise: Pāʻani kaʻu mau keiki me nā hoaaloha i hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohana i ka hiʻohiʻona kamaʻilio ʻoiai lākou e pāʻani nei, a ke manaʻo nei au he mea maikaʻi ke ʻano kaiapili ma ke ʻano nui, ʻoi aku hoʻi i ka wā maʻi maʻi ke nalo nā mea a pau. Pāʻani pū kaʻu mau keiki ʻelua i nā pāʻani me kekahi [i ka manawa like, ma nā pale ʻokoʻa] a hāʻawi ia i kahi ʻike pili ma waena o nā kaikunāne.
Addy: ʻOiai i ka wā quarantine, ʻaʻole liʻiliʻi ka manawa no kahi ʻōpio e launa pū ai, a ʻo nā pāʻani wikiō ke ala e hiki ai i nā hui hoaaloha ke launa pū me kahi mamao. No laila, ua hoʻemi ʻia kaʻu ʻōpio. He ʻāpana ia o kāna ʻaʻa o nā leʻaleʻa pūnaewele me kahi app kahi e loaʻa ai iā ia nā ʻōpio maʻamau a puni ka ʻāina e hoʻopaʻapaʻa e pili ana i ka politika me-a ua haʻi mai kaʻu ʻōpio iaʻu e pili ana i kāna kamaʻilio ʻana me nā ʻōpio ʻē aʻe me nā manaʻo politika like ʻole, no laila, manaʻo wau he maikaʻi ia?
Ka lawe ʻana o ka ʻōpio
No laila he aha ka ʻōlelo a kahi ʻōpio ke nīnau ʻia nā nīnau like e pili ana i ke kumuhana? ʻO ka mea pāʻani pāʻani wikiō 14 makahiki a mākou i nīnauele ai, manaʻoʻiʻo hiki ke hoʻonaʻauao ʻia ke ʻano, me ka haʻi ʻana iā Call of Duty ma ke ʻano he laʻana-he pāʻani ʻo ia e aʻo nui ai iā ia e pili ana i nā pelekikena mua a me kekahi mau hanana mōʻaukala e like me ka Cold War. Eia naʻe, i ka nīnau ʻana inā pilikia paha nā pāʻani wikiō, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hoʻohālikelike: 100 pakeneka ʻae, ʻaʻole wau i manaʻoʻiʻo he kumu ia i ka hana ʻino akā he mea hoʻohui. Ua ʻōlelo pū ʻo ia i kāna mau hakakā ponoʻī me ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana i ka wā e pāʻani ai i ka wā ma mua-he ʻike e hōʻike maopopo ʻole i kona manaʻo e kau nā mākua i nā palena manawa: ʻEkolu hola o ka lā no nā keiki 14 a ʻoi aku, a ma lalo o ia mau makahiki, hoʻokahi hola i ka lā.
He Manaʻo ʻOihana
ʻO ka mea e mahalo ai, ua like ke kūlana o ka psychologist ma nā ʻano he nui i ka manaʻo o nā mākua a me ke keiki a mākou i kamaʻilio pū ai. E like me ka nui o nā mea i ke ola, hiki i nā pāʻani wikiō ke maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole, wahi a Kauka Cook. ʻO kēlā ʻōlelo, hiki mai kāna hana kūʻokoʻa me kahi ʻōlelo koʻikoʻi: Pono nā mākua e makaʻala i ka hana ʻino i nā pāʻani wikiō, no ka mea hiki i kēia ʻano ʻike ke hopena i ka desensitization, kahi hopena e emi ai ka naʻau o nā keiki i ka hoʻoulu maikaʻi ʻole a i ʻole aversive. I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, inā makemake ʻoe i kāu keiki e ʻike i nā mea weliweli no ke ʻano o ia mea, e hōʻoia ʻaʻole e hōʻike pinepine ʻia ia mau mea i nā pāʻani wikiō a lilo ia i mea maʻamau.
Ma waho aʻe o ia mea, ua hōʻoia ʻo Kauka Kuke he ʻoiaʻiʻo ka hiki ke hoʻohui i ka mea hoʻohui: ua uea ʻia ka lolo o ke kanaka e makemake i ka pilina, ka ʻoluʻolu koke, ka ʻike wikiwiki a me ka hiki ʻole ke wānana; māʻona nā mea ʻehā i nā pāʻani wikiō. ʻO ka hopena hopena? ʻO ka pāʻani ʻana i nā pāʻani wikiō e hoʻoheheʻe i ke kikowaena leʻaleʻa o ka lolo me ka dopamine-he ʻike leʻaleʻa maikaʻi ʻole e makemake nui ai kekahi. Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole pono e kākau ʻia nā pāʻani wikiō e like me kekahi ʻano lāʻau weliweli e pale ʻia ma nā koina āpau. Ma muli o ke ʻano o ka pāʻani a kāu keiki e kamaʻilio nei, hiki ke hoʻowaiwai ʻiʻo ka media. Wahi a Dr. Cook, hiki i nā pāʻani wikiō ke kōkua i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana, ka nānā ʻana a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana, nā mākau hoʻonā pilikia, ʻike ʻike visuospatial, hoʻonui i ka wikiwiki o ka hana, hoʻonui i ka hoʻomanaʻo, i kekahi mau manawa i ka hoʻoikaika kino kino a hiki ke lilo i kumu nui o ke aʻo ʻana.
laina lalo? He ʻeke hui ʻia nā pāʻani wikiō—no laila inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e ʻae i kāu keiki e pāʻani iā lākou, e mākaukau e lawe i ka hewa me ka maikaʻi (a kau i nā palena paʻa e hoʻohuli i ka unahi i ka hope).
PILI: Nā hōʻailona 5 Ua lilo ka maʻamau o kāu keiki i mea ʻawaʻawa (a me ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana e pili ana iā ia, e like me ka poʻe loea)
