Welina mai i 'Between the Sheets,' he moʻolelo hou a mākou e pane ai i nā nīnau e pili ana i ka wahine, ka pilina a me ka loaʻa ʻana o ka hauʻoli i loko a i waho o ke aloha. Loaʻa i kahi nīnau wela? E hoʻouna i hoʻoponopono@purewow.com .
Ua aloha au i kaʻu kāne no nā ʻano maikaʻi a pau āna i lawe mai ai i ka papaʻaina. He makua kāne maikaʻi ʻo ia, kākoʻo i kaʻu ʻoihana a ʻo ia koʻu hoaaloha maikaʻi loa. Akā ʻaʻole wau i manaʻo e like me ke aloha hou ʻana iaʻu. Hoʻokahi wale nō kā mākou moe ʻana i ka mahina, ʻaʻole ʻo ia e hāʻawi i ke aloha kino a ʻaʻole ʻo ia e hoʻolālā i nā pō pō a i nā manawa kūikawā. Pehea wau e kamaʻilio ai i koʻu hemahema, me ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻole i nā hana a pau āna i hana ai i loko o kā māua male?
Hiki i nā kāne me nā ʻōlelo aloha like ʻole ke like me nā moku ʻelua e holo ana i ka pō; na hoailona a pau oalohama laila, ʻaʻole ʻike ʻia lākou e ke kanaka ʻē aʻe. And aKe oʻo nei ʻoe i kāu pilina, aia kekahi mau manawa ke manaʻo nei ʻoe he hoa ʻoi aku ma mua o ke aloha.No laila pehea e hana ai? Ma ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana i kēia mau ʻōlelo ʻekolu:
Ke ulu nei ke aloha—e aʻo i ka mahalo
He mau makahiki (a ʻoi aku paha) i loko o kahi pilina,kaaloha puahiohiohiki olekasiho, aemi ke olanā rosa a me nā kūlana wahine houa oi akunā ihu holo a me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa pōpeku. Hoʻomaka ʻoe i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana, akā i kou hoʻohui ʻana i nā kuleana hou aʻe i kāu pā, i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole ʻoe ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi me kāu wahine. I kekahi manawa, ʻo ʻoe nō kāu ʻāwīwī-a-hoʻohiki-huaʻōlelo iā ʻoe iho, a pōʻino, ua maikaʻi nō hoʻi.
ʻO ka makana maikaʻi loa o ke aloha makua ʻo ka hoʻomaha iā ʻoe iho i lokokēia kuleana, ma ka ʻike ʻana i nā drawbacks akā hoʻolauleʻa i nā lanakila. No laila, ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e like me ka nui (OK kekahi) lingerie, akā hiki iā ʻoe i kēia manawamakaʻu i mua o kāu kāne,me ka hopohopo ʻole e haʻalele ʻo ia iā ʻoe. A i ʻole e ʻae ʻoe i kou inaina Star Wars a hele ʻo ia e ʻike i ke kiʻiʻoniʻoni hou loa me kāna mau hoa. Ke laina lalo: E lilo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho, a he mea ia e waiwai ai.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo i nā loli koʻikoʻi i kāu kāne
Ke hoʻomaka ka hana maʻamau, a ua noho ʻoe me kekahi no nā makahiki, ʻo ʻoehiki ie ʻike i ko lākou ʻano maoli. (ʻO kēia ke kumuʻae ka hapa nui o ka poʻe akamai iā ʻoeaole pono e marehe kanakai loko o nā makahiki ʻeluao ka ike ana ia lakou.)A ʻo ke kāneʻO ʻoe pū me ʻoe i kēia manawa ʻo ia paha ke kanaka i noho mau ai kāu kāne, ʻo ka nui wale nōʻoiaʻiʻomana nona iho (ma mua o ka mana e ho'āʻo nei e hoʻohiwahiwa iā ʻoe me nā huakaʻi hoʻomaha hopena pule).Inā hōʻike ʻo ia i ke aloha ma o ka lawelawe ʻana—e hana ana i nā mea e hoʻemi ai i kāu ukana, ʻo ka makua kāne maikaʻi.a laila, mai manaʻo ʻoe e haʻi ʻōlelo ʻo ia. Inā hōʻike ʻo ia i ke aloha ma okī haʻahaʻaka manawa maikaʻi me ʻoe, a laila ʻaʻole paha ʻo ia ke ʻanokāhāhā iā ʻoeʻaina ahiahi a kūʻai pahahe hoonaneamakana lā hānau. ʻAʻohe kanaka hiki i na mea a pau.
Ke ʻōlelo nei ʻoe he kanaka nui kāu kāne, kākoʻo i kou ola, he makuakāne maikaʻi a he hoaaloha maikaʻi loa.Akā ināʻAʻole ʻoe manaʻo i ke aloha (a i ʻole makemake paha?), ʻO kaʻu manaʻo he pono ʻoe i kahi hiʻohiʻona-hoʻololi. ʻO ka manawa aʻe e hana ai kāu kāne i kahi ʻano ʻano (e kiʻi i nā keiki i ʻole pono ʻoe, e paipai iā ʻoe e noi i ka hoʻokiʻekiʻe ʻana), e hoʻāʻo e ʻike iā ia he hana aloha ma mua o kahi hana maʻalahi.
Akā hiki iā ʻoe ke noi i kāu kāne e hoʻoikaika e hōʻike i ke aloha hou aʻe
ʻOiai ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo e hoʻololi loa kāu kāne, oehikimanaʻo e hālāwai ʻo ia me ʻoe i ka hapalua.ʻO iaMe he mea lā he kanaka hoʻopā kino ʻoe, no laila ke manaʻo nei au ʻo kāu hana mua e noi hou aku, ma kēia ʻano.Makemake ʻoe e paʻa lima ke hele ʻoe? Makemake ʻoe e hoʻopā i katkiʻekiʻe ke noho ʻoe ma ka home ma luna o kahi moe? Makemake ʻoe i ka moekolohe i kēlā me kēia pule? Hele mai me ahoʻonohonoho i nā pahuhopu, e noho iā ia i lalo a kamaʻilio. E nīnau pū i ke ʻano o ke aloha iā ia. Ke manaʻo ka poʻe i ke aloha, ʻoi aku ka manaʻo o ka hoʻoikaikae haawi akuhope.
A laila, ʻo kāu hana ke hoʻokō i kāu mea i noi ai. E hoʻomaka i ka moekoloheʻoi aku ka pinepine, e kīkoʻo i kona lima ke hele ʻoe i wahoa hoʻolālā i nā lā no ʻolua wale nō.ʻAe, makemake ʻoe e hana pū kāu kāne i kēia mau mea, akā ma ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi laʻana o ke ʻano o kāu ʻōlelo aloha, hāʻawi ʻoe iā ia i kahi manawa hakakā. A haʻi mai kekahi iaʻu ua kū ʻo ia no ka paʻakikī.
ʻO Jenna Birch he kaʻi kamaʻilio , mea kākau moʻolelo a me ka mea kākau o The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life & Love .
PILI: Ua Kau ʻO wau wale nō me ke kāne o kaʻu hoa aloha. He hewa anei keia?
