Ma hope o ka ninini ʻana iā ia iho i ke aniani o ka champagne a me ka hoʻopaʻa moʻolelo, ua mākaukau ʻo Dana Pizzarelli no kahi hakakā koʻikoʻi.
Loaʻa i kaʻu hoaaloha o ʻeono makahiki i loko o ka hale ʻaina e ʻai ana me kekahi kaikamahine ʻē aʻe i kēia lā, no laila ua kūʻē wau iā ia. Nanea, kākau ʻo ia i kāna wikiō TikTok , i kēia manawa ua lilo i viral me 3.7 miliona makemake a me 18.6 miliona manaʻo.
I loko o ke kiʻi, ua nīnau ʻo Pizzarelli i kāna keikikāne inā ua ʻai ʻo ia i kēia lā. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, akā ʻaʻole i haʻi i kēia kanaka ʻē aʻe - pēlā ʻo ia i hana ai.
ʻeke maka homemade no nā pimples a me ka pono
ʻO wai ka mea i makemake e hele i laila? Hailey? wahi āna.
I kāna nīnau ʻana i kāna mea e kamaʻilio nei, ua koi hou ʻo ia iā ia.
He aha ka mea āu e kamaʻilio mai nei …. ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu kahi o kou mau hoaaloha āu e hoʻolohe nei akā ʻaʻole, pane ʻo ia.
I kēlā manawa, ua ʻoi aku ka huhū o Pizzarelli, akā ʻaʻole ʻo ia i haʻalulu.
ʻAʻole pili kēia me kekahi o koʻu mau hoaaloha ... me he mea lā ʻaʻole wau i ʻike maoli iā ʻoe ma laila i kēia lā, i ʻōlelo ai ʻo ia me ke kūpaʻa ʻana i kona kūpaʻa.
ʻAʻole ʻoe i hana, wahi āna.
Hele ʻo ia me ka inu ʻana i kāna champagne.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hele f *** iā ʻoe iho, ʻoiaʻiʻo, wahi āna. Ma laila e pau ai ka wikiō.
He aha ke kukui uila?
Hoʻomaopopo koke ka poʻe ʻōlelo i ke ʻano o kāna keikikāne - ʻo ia hoʻi, ke hōʻole ʻo ia i kahi mea āna i ʻike ai me kona mau maka ponoʻī - e like me ke kukui uila .
ʻO ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana he ʻano hoʻopunipuni kahi e hoʻāʻo ai kekahi e kiʻi i kekahi kanaka a i ʻole pūʻulu kanaka e nīnau i ko lākou ʻoiaʻiʻo a i ʻole nā manaʻo.
ʻO ke kukui ʻana i ka maikaʻi loa, wahi a kekahi mea hoʻohana.
Ua paila koʻu koko, no ke aha i manaʻo ai nā kāne he mea maʻamau ke kukui? He pilikia noʻonoʻo no ka maopopo, kākau kekahi.
ʻO ka moe mālie ma ka pahupaʻikiʻi ʻo ia ka mea i hana pinepine ʻo ia ma mua. Ua hauʻoli i ka loaʻa ʻana iā ʻoe, wahi a ke kolu i pane aku ai.
Aloha au i ka ikehu. ʻO ka champagne, ka noʻonoʻo, ka mālie, pane mai ka ha.
Ua hauʻoli ka poʻe o Pizzarelli i ka pane ʻana i kāna pou, me ka ʻae ʻana o kekahi e pili ana lākou i kahi kūlana like i kēlā manawa a ʻaʻole hoʻi i ʻike he hewa.
Eia naʻe ka mea - ʻaʻole maoli ka wikiō.
He mea nui paha inā ʻaʻole maoli kēia wikiō?
Ua haʻi ʻo Pizzarelli i ka In The Know, ʻoiai ua loaʻa kekahi mea like iā ia i ka wā ma mua, he ʻakaʻaka wale nō kēia. ʻAʻole hoʻopunipuni kāna keikikāne iā ia - ʻoiaʻiʻo, aia ʻo ia ma luna o nā mea āpau a hana pū me ia.
He ʻoiaʻiʻo ke kūlana, akā ʻaʻole ʻo ke wikiō, wahi āna. Ua hauʻoli wau i ka hiki i ka wikiō ke kōkua i nā wahine a me nā kāne he nui i ke aʻo ʻana e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka gaslighting.
I ka wā i pahū ai ke wikiō, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i noʻonoʻo e wehe. Ua kapa ʻo ia i kāna keikikāne he kāne maikaʻi a ʻōlelo ʻo ia he haʻuki maikaʻi loa no ka lawe ʻana i ka wela o ka pūnaewele.
He mea pupule ka lawe ʻana i lalo inā aia kekahi ma waho o kahi kūlana like e hiki ke ʻike iā ia mai waho o kā lākou pahu, wahi āna. ʻO Skit a ʻaʻole paha, hauʻoli wau i hoʻonui i ka ʻike a hiki ke hana i kahi mea maikaʻi me kēlā ʻike.
He aha ka ʻōlelo a ka poʻe akamai e aʻo ai mai kēia wikiō?
Ua ʻōlelo ka poʻe loea, ua hana maikaʻi ʻo Pizzarelli e kūʻē i kāna keikikāne i ka skit.
Manaʻo wau ua mālama maikaʻi kēia wahine i ka hakakā. Ua kūpaʻa ʻo ia, ʻaʻohe mea hoʻoweliweli ... a i ʻole nā ʻano 'ala haʻahaʻa'. Akaka, pololei, Nancy B. Irwin, he kanaka psychologist , haʻi ʻia In The Know.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia ʻo ka lāʻau lapaʻau no ka gaslighting he transparency, a hana ia i nā ala ʻelua. ʻO ka hana aʻe, ʻo ia ka mālama ʻana i ka gaslighter no kā lākou hana.
Chloe Ballatore, he loea pili nāna e aʻo i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa noʻonoʻo, ua ʻae ʻo ia ke kukui uila - akā ʻike ʻia he ʻoi aku ka ʻino.
ʻOi aku ka pōʻino o ke kukui ʻana inā ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi a me ka hoʻopunipuni, wahi āna. Pono ʻoe e hoʻopaʻi ʻia i kou mau manaʻo ponoʻī a me kou mau manaʻo e kū i kahi mea hoʻomaʻamaʻa.
'Ōleloʻo ia, ua aʻoʻia nā wāhine e hoʻopau i ko lākou mau manaʻo a hana me he mea lā ua maikaʻi nā mea a pau i nā manawa a pau.
Ua aʻo ʻia mākou e kāohi i ko mākou mau manaʻo. No laila, ke haʻi mai kahi hoaaloha iā mākou he pupule mākou, maʻalahi ke kamaʻilio ʻana mai ka mea a mākou i ʻike ai, wehewehe ʻo ia.
Kauka Candace V. Aloha, a kanaka kālaiʻike kino ma North Shore Behavioral Medicine ma Chicago, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, ʻaʻole ia he kukui uila - he kanaka wale nō e hōʻole ana ua hopu ʻia ʻo ia e like me ka hana maʻamau.
ʻOi aku ka pili a me ka hoʻolālā ʻana o Gaslighting ma mua o hoʻokahi hanana hoʻopunipuni, haʻi ʻo ia iā In The Know. He hiʻohiʻona ia o ka wahaheʻe ʻole no ka mea ua hopu ʻia ʻoe, akā ma ke ʻano ʻōnaehana o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e kānalua ʻoe iā ʻoe iho a manaʻoʻiʻo ua pupule ʻoe.
Inā paha he hiʻohiʻona kēia o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana a i ʻole ka hana ʻino maʻamau, ua waiho ʻia nā mea hoʻohana TikTok e hoʻoikaika e kū i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo - ʻaʻole ia he mea ʻino.
inā hauʻoli ʻoe i kēia moʻolelo, e nānā i ke ʻano o ka wahine ua loaʻa i kāna keikikāne e hoʻopunipuni me kahi kiʻi Snapchat.
Mea hou mai In The Know :
ʻO ka haʻi ʻana o ka wahine ʻo 'Bad Romance' i hoʻomaka i kahi ʻano TikTok hou
Manaʻo nā mea kūʻai i kēia mau sneakers Converse maikaʻi e hele viral ma TikTok
Pehea e hana ai ka hōkū YouTube ʻo Lizzy Capri i kāna mau wikiō hoʻokūkū
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