I ka makua, nui loa ka ʻike, akā kakaʻikahi ka manaʻo. Eia nō naʻe, inā helikopa ʻoe a i ʻole ka ʻokoʻa, hoʻokomo i nā malu ʻeleʻele a puhi paha i nā pō, lawelawe i nā kīʻaha kīʻaha vegan a i ʻole Coco Krispies, ʻo ia ka makua kakaʻikahi ʻaʻole i pili i ka liʻiliʻi. kekahi o ka American Academy of Pediatrics' nā alakaʻi (a ma ka pili ʻana, ke ʻōlelo nei mākou ua ʻike mākou iā lākou i ʻike mākou i ka wā e manaʻo ai ka hewa hou aku).
A i kēia manawa, ma waho aʻe o ke aʻo ʻana iā mākou i ka wā e pono ai mākou hoʻokomo i nā mea paʻa a ʻehia mau hola o ka hiamoe ʻana o nā keiki, ua aʻo mākou i ka AAP i nā manaʻo i ka nui o nā makahiki o kā mākou mau keiki ma mua o ko lākou hoʻāʻo ʻana i kahi kūʻokoʻa, e like me ka hele ʻana i ke kula ma o lākou iho a i ʻole ke hele ʻana i ke alanui me ke kaʻawale.
ʻO kā lākou hopena? He ʻumi makahiki ma mua loa.
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Loaʻa kēia ʻike ma o kahi mea hoihoi Wall Street Journal ʻatikala kapa ʻia ʻo The Overprotected American Child. ʻO ka mea nui, no ka mea kākau ʻo Andrea Petersen: Hiki i ka makua nui ke hana ʻino maoli. ʻIke ʻia e ka poʻe psychologists a me nā kumu hoʻonaʻauao ʻo ia kekahi mea e hoʻoulu ai i ka piʻi ʻana o ka nui o nā keiki a me nā ʻōpio ʻōpio i ʻike ʻia me nā maʻi hopohopo. ʻO ka mea ʻeha puʻuwai maoli? No nā keiki e hopohopo nei, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka pale ʻana iā lākou. 'Hoʻoikaika ia i ke keiki aia kekahi mea e makaʻu ai lākou a he wahi weliweli ka honua a ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke hana i kēlā noʻu iho ,' wahi a Rebecca Rialon Berry, he kanaka psychologist ma NYU Langone Child Study Center. ʻO ka antidote, wahi a ka poʻe akamai? ʻOi aku ka mana kūʻokoʻa.
A no ia hopena, ʻo ka hele ʻana i ke alanui me ke kōkua ʻole o ke kanaka makua, he hōʻailona nui ia. Eia nō naʻe, i ka wā e hiki mai ana i ke oʻo ʻana, ka ʻike pōʻino a me ka ʻike kaʻa e pono ai ke hoʻokele i kahi ala ala, ʻōlelo ka poʻe noiʻi ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi mau makahiki he ʻumi i ka hana.
Ua ʻike ʻia ka noiʻi ʻana ʻaʻole ʻimi pinepine nā keiki liʻiliʻi e hele i ke kula i ke kaʻa a kū paha ma ke ala ma mua o ka hele ʻana i ke alanui, kākau ʻo Petersen. Haʻi ʻo ia i ka ʻO ka ʻōlelo kulekele a AAP e manaʻo nui paha nā mākua i ka hiki i kā lākou mau keiki ke hele palekana i ke alanui.
laina lalo? ʻIke maikaʻi ʻoe i kāu keiki. Ma hope o ke aʻo ʻana i nā pūʻulu makahiki, ua hoʻopau ka AAP: Ua loli nui ka hoʻomohala ʻana i nā mākau hele wāwae e like me ka hana ʻana o kekahi o nā keiki 5 makahiki i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o kekahi mau keiki 11 makahiki ma ka helu holoʻokoʻa o ka mākau hele wāwae. No laila, ʻo nā alakaʻi alakaʻi, ʻo ia ka hana a ka makua e noʻonoʻo i kahi o ka hiki ke hoʻomau i kā lākou keiki e noho ai (a i ʻole, hele wāwae).
PILI: E hoʻokuʻu anei ʻoe i kāu keiki e pāʻani ma ke kahua pāʻani pōʻino?
