E hoʻomanaʻo i kēlā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni ʻo Sarah Jessica Parker Hoʻokuʻu ʻole ? He leʻaleʻa aloha e pili ana i kahi kanaka 30 mau makahiki, ʻo Matthew McConaughey, ke noho nei me kona mau mākua. ʻAʻohe mea pupule e pili ana i kēlā…akā, ʻike koke mākou ʻaʻole makemake maoli ʻo ia a me kona mau mākua e ʻike iā ia e haʻalele i ka pūnana. ʻO kēia ka mea e hiki ai i kahi keiki makua. A ʻoiai he mea maʻamau ka makemake o nā mākua e kōkua i kā lākou mau keiki i kēlā me kēia makahiki, i kekahi manawa hiki i kā lākou lima kōkua ke lilo i mea hiki, ʻoiai inā he 30 mau makahiki o kā lākou keiki iā Sarah Jessica Parker.
Akā ʻaʻole maopopo ka ʻae ʻana i kāu mau keiki makua. Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā pili kēia iā ʻoe? Maʻaneʻi, kōkua mākou e wāwahi i nā hōʻailona e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke ʻae i kāu keiki makua a hāʻawi pū i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo kōkua no ka hoʻōki.
Mai kahi hiʻohiʻona ʻenehana, hiki ke ʻae i ka wā e wehe ai ka makua i kahi hopena maikaʻi ʻole mai ke ola o kahi keiki makua, a ʻaʻole aʻo ke keiki mai ka ʻike, wehewehe. Kauka Lara Friedrich , he kanaka kālai'ōlelo laikini i hana pū me nā 'ohana. ʻOkoʻa ka ʻōlelo ʻana, ʻo ia ka wā e paʻa ai ka makua a me ke keiki i kahi pōʻai e hoʻomau i ka hilinaʻi ʻelua i kekahi ma ke ala e hiki ʻole ai i ke keiki makua ke hana hewa a ulu.
ʻO kahi o ke kumu e hiki mai ai kēia no ka makemake ʻole o ka makua e ulu aʻe kā lākou keiki a waiho i ka lepo, no laila. I kekahi manawa hiki i nā mākua ke hoʻomaopopo ʻole i ka wā e makaʻu ai lākou i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana o kahi keiki i kahi kanaka makua piha. Keʻeha loa kēlā kaʻawaleʻana, e hana nā mākua i nā hana kōkuaʻole e hoʻopaʻa i ke keiki,ʻoiai inā e hoʻopilikia i ka ulu pilikino o ke keiki, wahi a Kauka Friedrich. No ka laʻana, ke kākau ʻana i ka leka uhi a kāu keiki no lākou i kēlā me kēia manawa e hopohopo kāu keiki e hoʻomau iā ia e pono ai iā ʻoe, a maikaʻi paha ia. Akā, ho'ōki ia i ke keiki mai ka hele ʻana iā lākou iho a aʻo iā lākou e hoʻokō wale lākou i kā lākou mau pahuhopu me kāu kōkua.
nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni hoʻohenehene ʻohana ʻaʻole i hoʻoulu ʻia
No laila, ma kahi o ke aʻo ʻana pehea e lilo ai i kanaka makua kūʻokoʻa, loaʻa i kāu keiki ka manaʻo o ke kuleana, aʻo i ka nele a me ka mahalo ʻole.
E manaʻo lākou i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa like ʻana mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i ko lākou ola a komo wale i nā pilina kahi e hiki ai iā lākou ke paʻakikī a me ke kikowaena o ka nānā ʻana, wahi a Dr. ʻO ka male ʻana ʻo Sankofa a me ka ʻohana ʻohana. Eia kekahi, ʻaʻole pono kāu keiki e mahalo iā ʻoe a noʻonoʻo paha i kou mau manaʻo. Hiki i kēia ke kaupalena i kou hiki ke kūʻokoʻa a ola i kou ola ma kāu ʻōlelo no ka mea pono ʻoe e loaʻa mau a kuleana no kekahi kanaka makua.
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Mai nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā e like me ka holoi ʻana a me ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana i kāu keiki makua a hiki i nā pilikia nui e like me ke kala ʻana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau a me ka hana kalaima, hiki ke ulu i nā ʻano like ʻole.
Eia kekahi mau hōʻailona e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hāpai i kāu keiki makua:
1. Hana ʻoe i nā hoʻoholo a pau no kāu keiki makua.
Ke hilinaʻi nei kāu keiki iā ʻoe e hoʻoholo no a me lākou e pili ana i nā mea āpau, wahi a Kauka Henry. Hoʻokahi mea e hāʻawi i ka ʻōlelo aʻo akā inā hilinaʻi kāu keiki makua iā ʻoe e hoʻoholo e pili ana i nā hana, nā hoaaloha, nā hoa pili aloha, a pēlā aku.
2. ʻAʻole mahalo kāu keiki makua iā ʻoe.
ʻAʻole lākou e hōʻike i ka mahalo iā ʻoe a nānā ʻole i nā palena āu i kau ai. Inā ʻōlelo ʻoe, 'mai kelepona mai iaʻu ma hope o ka hola 10 p.m. a i ʻole ʻaʻole wau e ʻae iā ʻoe e noho hou me aʻu 'a hoʻomau lākou e hana i kēia mau mea, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻae i kēia ʻano, wahi a Kauka Henry.
3. ʻAʻole hiki i kāu keiki makua ke ʻae i ka 'no.'
Inā loaʻa i kāu keiki ka hopena maikaʻi ʻole a me ka visceral ke ʻōlelo ʻoe ʻaʻole i kāna mau noi, ʻōlelo ʻo Kauka Henry he hōʻailona kēia e ʻae ana ʻoe i ka hana ʻino.
4. Uku oe no na mea a pau, i na manawa a pau.
Inā noho kāu keiki makua me ʻoe a ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻolilo i nā lilo o ka home a/a i ʻole ʻoe e uku i kā lākou mau bila, ke hoʻokumu nei ʻoe i kahi maʻamau maikaʻi ʻole.
5. 'Pepe' 'oe i kāu keiki makua.
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e aʻo i kāu keiki makua i nā mea e pono ai lākou e ʻike pehea e hana ai, e like me ka holoi lole.
6. Manaʻo ʻoe i ke kaumaha, lawe ʻia a hoʻopau ʻia.
He mea pōʻino i ka makua no ka mea hiki iā ia ke hōʻino i ko lākou manawa, kālā, ikaika a me ke kūʻokoʻa, a mālama iā lākou i loko o ke ola o ke keiki ma kahi ʻano hua ʻole, wehewehe ʻo Kauka Friedrich.
Inā manaʻo ʻoe e ʻae paha ʻoe i kāu keiki, eia kekahi mau ʻanuʻu āu e hana ai e hoʻōki:
aila niu no ka poho lauoho
1. Hoʻonoho i nā palena.
ʻO nā palena ke kī e kōkua ai i kāu keiki makua e kūʻokoʻa, wahi a Kauka Henry. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi i ke kōkua a ma laila e hoʻopakele iā lākou inā pilikia, akā pono lākou e hoʻāʻo i nā hoʻonā ma o lākou iho. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka ma ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i nā palena āu e ʻoluʻolu ai. Hiki ke pili kēia i ka lewa, ka manawa, ke kālā, ka loaʻa, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe, a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoholo e kamaʻilio pū me kāu keiki e pili ana i kēia mau palena a i ʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka e hoʻokō i kēia mau palena i ka wā hiki. ʻO ke kī ʻo ia ke kūpaʻa a hoʻokō i nā palena kūpono. Inā ʻoluʻolu ʻole kāu keiki makua a / a hauʻoli ʻole i nā palena, he hōʻailona ia i ka maikaʻi o nā palena.
Ua ʻae ʻo Dr. Friedrich, me ka ʻōlelo ʻana he pono ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i ka nui o ka manawa, kālā a me ka ikaika āu e makemake ai e hāʻawi i nā pilikia o kāu keiki. E haʻi i kāu keiki i kēia palena. Inā noi mau ke keiki i ke kālā, e noʻonoʻo i ka mea e hana ai a ʻōlelo, 'Hiki iaʻu ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i no ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i kāu kaʻa i kēia mahina,' no ka laʻana. A i ʻole, ‘Ke hāʻawi aku nei au iā ʻoe i $____ e kōkua ai i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā lole kūpono i ka hana i kēia makahiki.’ Inā makemake lākou i ke kōkua hōʻuluʻulu, koho i ka palena manawa a kū i laila.
2. E aʻo i ka maikaʻi me ka ʻike ʻana i kāu keiki e hakakā nei.
E noʻonoʻo i ka hoʻonui ʻana i kou hoʻomanawanui no ka ʻike ʻana i ka hakakā ʻana o kāu keiki, wahi a Kauka Friedrich. Inā paʻakikī loa ka nānā ʻana, a inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e huki hou ʻia, e kamaʻilio me ke kauka no ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka mea e hana nei. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kahi hoʻolālā maʻamau e wāwahi i ka pōʻai.
3. E haʻi iā lākou iā Google.
Ke nīnau kāu mau keiki makua iā ʻoe pehea e hana ai i kekahi mea, manaʻo e Google lākou. He mea paʻakikī paha ia, akā hiki iā lākou. E noʻonoʻo lākou i ia mea, wahi a Rebecca Ogle, ka limahana lapaʻau lapaʻau a me ka lāʻau lapaʻau laikini e hoʻomaʻamaʻa ana i ka teletherapy ma Illinois. Ma kēlā mau laina like, ʻōlelo ʻo ia e hoʻōki i ka hana ʻana i kāu mau keiki i ko lākou kuleana. Ma ke kū ʻana, hāʻawi ʻoe iā lākou i ka manawa e: A. ʻAʻohe mea a loaʻa i nā hopena a i ʻole B. Hana i ka mea e pono ai lākou. Aia iā lākou ke koho.
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