Aloha nui ʻoe i kāu hoa, akā i kekahi manawa makemake paha ʻoe e kiola iā ia mai kahi pali. Eia nō naʻe, makemake ʻoe: He aha ka mea huna i ka holomua lōʻihi? ʻAe, aia ka diabolo i nā kikoʻī, ʻoiaʻiʻo. Wahi a ka poʻe noiʻi, ʻoluʻolu nā kāne male i kēia mau ʻano ʻelima.
1. Hoomua lakou i ke ano maikai
Ua noho pū ʻoe no ka lōʻihi? ʻOiaʻiʻo he mea maʻalahi ke poina i ka ʻōlelo ʻoluʻolu a hoʻomaikaʻi iā ʻoe ke noi ʻoe i kāu hoa e hele i ka paʻakai a paʻa paha i ka puka. Akā, ʻōlelo nā kāne i loko o kahi pilina paʻa, ʻo ka hoʻoikaika pū ʻana e hōʻike mau i ka mahalo he mea ia e hoʻololi ai i ka wā e pili ana i kahi hui hauʻoli (a lōʻihi). ʻOiaʻiʻo, kahi haʻawina i paʻi ʻia ma ka puke pai Pilikino Pilikino ʻIke ʻia ʻo ka hōʻike ʻana i ka mahalo he kī nui ia i ka male olakino a kūleʻa a ʻo ka hana maʻalahi o ka ʻōlelo ʻana aku i kou hoa aloha e hiki ke lawa ka ikaika e pale aku i ka pōʻino o ka hakakā ʻana. (ʻAʻole ia i ka nui o kou hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻana, akā pehea ʻoe e hana ai kekahi i kekahi ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻoe i ka helu, wehewehe nā mea kākau.)
2. ʻAʻole lākou e kaʻana like ma ka pūnaewele
Loaʻa iā mākou a pau poe nā hoaaloha e ʻimi nei ma ka pūnaewele e pili ana i kēlā me kēia pae kiʻekiʻe. Makahiki mua? ʻono. ʻO ka makahiki mua o kou hui mua ʻana i nā cones hau? Hmm, kānalua iki. Wahi a nā mea noiʻi ma ke Kulanui ʻo Haverford , ʻoi aku ka hopohopo ʻole o kekahi e pili ana i kā lākou pilina, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka hoʻolaha ʻana ma ka pūnaewele media no ka hōʻoia ʻana. ʻO ka mea ʻē aʻe, ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli o nā kāne hauʻoli e hoʻomanaʻo pilikino i nā milestone kūikawā.
3. Hauʻoli lākou e hoʻāʻo i nā mea hou
ʻO ka hale ʻaina kahi e ʻike ai nā kānaka a pau i kou inoa he ʻāpana hoʻokipa o kāu hoʻokamakama ʻana, akā ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli o nā kāne e hoʻoikaika mau nei e hoʻohui i nā mea i ka pilina. kekahi mau haʻawina me kahi i paʻi ʻia e ke Kulanui ʻo Rutgers . ʻO ke kumu? Nā hana hou—ʻo ia ka hana ʻana i nā mea hou e like me ke kōkua ʻana o nā kāne i ka hoʻihoʻi ʻana mai i nā lele a hoʻāla i kēlā mau kemika i loko o ke kikowaena uku o kou lolo i holo kiʻekiʻe i nā lā mua. Eia kekahi, ʻaʻole ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka lulu ʻana. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e koli mai nā chandeliers. E hele wale i kahi ʻāpana hou o ke kūlanakauhale, e kaʻa i ka ʻāina a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, mai hana i nā hoʻolālā a ʻike i ka mea e hiki mai ana iā ʻoe, wahi a Kauka Helen E. Fisher o Rutgers. ʻO ka New York Times .
4. ʻAʻole lākou manaʻo i kahi PDA liʻiliʻi
ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka moekolohe i kēlā me kēia pō, akā ʻo nā kāne mare hauʻoli ka poʻe A-OK me nā hana liʻiliʻi o ke aloha kino. He haʻawina ma ka Ka Nūpepa o nā Pilikino a me ka Pilikanaka ʻO nā hōʻike e hoʻomaka wale ana i ka pili kino-paʻa lima, puliki ma luna o kahi moe, puliki-hiki ke hōʻailona i kāu hoa pili i ka liʻiliʻi loa he makemake e pili.
5. ʻAʻole lākou e waiho i nā kīʻaha i loko o ka ipu
Hoʻonohonoho nā kāne he nui i kēia ma ke ʻano he helu ʻekahi o kā lākou pipi, akā ʻo nā kāne e noho pū ana e hui pū i ka hana kīʻaha, e like me kahi Pew Research koho . Hoʻoikaika pū ia e hana i nā hana o ka hale (ʻo ia hoʻi he hōʻoia i ka nui o ka manawa). No laila, ʻo kēlā kīʻaha cereal āu i haʻalele ai i ka ʻaoʻao pohō i ʻelua kekona e holoi ai? E hana ana nō. ʻO ka male hauʻoli kāu uku.
PILI: 5 mau ala e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ai i kāu male male male, e like me ka loea pili ʻo Esther Perel.
