Inā ʻoe e pani i kou mau maka no hoʻokahi minute a noʻonoʻo e pili ana i kou lā, he aha nā huaʻōlelo āu e hoʻomanaʻo ai i ka haʻi ʻana i kāu mau keiki i ka manawa hou? Loaʻa paha nā ʻōlelo e makaʻala! ua hoʻōho ʻia ma ka liʻiliʻi hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha (me ka paʻi ʻole paha! a na wai i hana i kēia?). Akā ʻaʻole maikaʻi loa kēlā, ʻeā? Ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻoe e mālama i kāu mau keiki-a me kēlā me kēia mea e hele i ko lākou ala-i waho o ke ala ʻino.
Eia naʻe ka mea: ʻO ka haʻi mau ʻana i nā keiki e makaʻala ʻo ia ka mea ʻaʻole lākou e aʻo i ka lawe ʻana i nā pilikia a i ʻole nā hewa. ʻO ia ka mea like ʻelua huaʻōlelo o ka makua helicopter (a me kona hoahānau, snowplow parenting).
ʻO ka lawe ʻana i nā pilikia ʻo ia hoʻi ka hāʻule ʻana i kekahi manawa, kākau ʻo ka loea makua ʻo Jamie Glowacki i loko Oh Crap! He kamaliʻi koʻu . Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e lawe i kahi pilikia, inā ʻoe e pāʻani palekana i nā manawa āpau, makaʻu ʻoe i ka hana hewa. Makaʻu ʻoe i ka hemahema. Hoʻopili ka hopena o kēia ʻano koʻikoʻi i nā kānaka i ko lākou ola holoʻokoʻa. E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻole he mea maikaʻi ʻole ka hāʻule ʻana - ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka hele ʻana i waho o kahi ʻoluʻolu o kekahi e hele pū me ka kūleʻa. (Nīnau wale ʻO Oprah Winfrey , Bill Gates a i ʻole ʻO Vera Wang ).
A eia kekahi mea ʻē aʻe e noʻonoʻo ai - ʻo ka ʻuā ʻana e makaʻala i kahi keiki e kowali hauʻoli ana ma luna o nā kaʻa monkey e hoʻouna iā lākou i ka ʻōlelo ʻaʻole ʻoe i hilinaʻi i kā lākou hoʻoholo a i ʻole he mau pōʻino huna i ʻike ʻia e nā mākua wale nō. E hōʻoia i ka kānalua a me ka hopohopo. I ka 'oiaʻiʻo, hoʻokahi haʻawina mai ka Macquarie University's Center for Emotional Health ʻike ʻia ʻo ka hoʻoikaika ʻole ʻana i nā keiki e lawe i nā pilikia hiki ke hoʻopilikia i nā pilikia hopohopo ma hope.
Akā, pehea ke ʻano o kāu keiki e hāʻule a hōʻeha paha iā lākou iho? Pīhoihoi paha ʻoe i ka mea hiki i kāu keiki ke hana, wahi a Glowacki. Ke nahu mākou i ko mākou mau lehelehe, me ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i ka 'makaʻala,' ʻaneʻane ʻike mākou he maikaʻi kā mākou mau keiki a ʻoi aku ka mākaukau ma mua o ko mākou manaʻo. Hiki iā lākou ke hoʻokele maikaʻi i kā lākou pilikia ma mua o kā mākou i manaʻo ai. ʻOiai e hana hewa paha lākou ma ke ala, e loaʻa iā lākou kekahi mau kūleʻa maikaʻi loa. Ulu a mohala ka loiloi pilikia ma kēia wahi. 'Ōlelo Aʻo: Aia nō kekahi mau kūlana ('ōlelo, ma kahi kaʻa kaʻa paʻa) kahi i kūpono loa nā huaʻōlelo e akahele - a pono.
E nānā, ke hoʻōho ʻoe i kāu keiki e makaʻala! ma ke kahua pāʻani, ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e pale i kā lākou ulu ʻana. He aha ʻoe maoli ʻo ka noi ʻana he loiloi pilikia. Nature lover, adventurer and mom-of-4 Josée Bergeron o BackwoodsMama.com e uhaʻi iā mākou: ma mua o ka ulu ʻana o ka stymie, e hoʻāʻo e hoʻohana i ka manawa i manawa kūpono no ka hoʻoulu ʻana i ka ʻike a me ka hoʻoponopono pilikia. Eia kekahi mau manaʻo mai Bergeron (me kekahi mau mea mai mākou) i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i kēia mau mākau waiwai ʻelua ma kahi o ka huli ana i na olelo e akahele.
PILI: 6 mau mea e ʻōlelo mau ai i kāu mau keiki (a me 4 e pale aku ai), e like me ka poʻe loea keiki.
