1. E kelepona i kahi hoaaloha e hoʻopololei i kāu hoʻomanaʻo
Ua hala kekahi manawa, a ʻaʻole like ʻoe i nā manaʻo o kāu ex. Akā ʻaʻole kēia manaʻo e loaʻa iā lākou kahi pass maʻalahi i kou ola. Ua hana ʻia kekahi mea i hōʻeha iā ʻoe, a inā ua poina iā ʻoe i ka ʻeha o kou naʻau, e ʻoluʻolu e hiki i kāu mau hoaaloha ke hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe.
Ua haʻalele paha ʻoe no ke kumu maikaʻi, haʻi mai ʻo Bromley iā mākou. Inā ʻaʻole hou ka haʻihaʻi ʻana, maʻalahi ka poina a hoʻolohilohi paha i kēlā kumu no ka mea e hoʻōla ka manawa i nā ʻeha. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e loaʻa kahi manawa aha ma hope, kahi āu e like ai, 'ʻO kēia ke kumu i haʻalele ai mākou!' E hoʻomaka ma ke kamaʻilio ʻana me nā poʻe i ʻike iā ʻoe i kou wā me kāu ex. E kikokiko i kahi hoaaloha a nīnau iā ia, ‘Ua ʻālohilohi anei au?’ ‘Ua hauʻoli anei au?’ ‘Ua manaʻo anei ʻoe he mea maikaʻi kēia kanaka noʻu?’
2. E hilinaʻi i kou ʻōpū
E wikiwiki, pehea kou helehelena i ka wā i hoʻi mai ai kāu ex mai ka make mai? Ua minoʻaka anei ʻoe? Huli ʻulaʻula? 'Olo kou mau maka i ke kua o kou iwi po'o? Ua pili paha kēlā ʻano hana mua i ka haʻalele ʻana o ʻolua.
Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke pane i kēlā kikokikona inā hoʻopau ʻoe ma nā ʻōlelo maikaʻi a aloha mau kekahi i kekahi, wahi a Sullivan. Eia naʻe, inā ʻoe he hauʻoli i kā lākou leka ʻana iā ʻoe, aia kahi manawa kūpono ʻaʻole ʻoe ma luna o ka pilina a makemake paha e hoʻāʻo e hoʻopaʻa i nā mea. Akā, inā ʻike ʻia ʻoe e ʻeha, huhū a hopohopo paha, Ua pau ka pilina no ka maikaʻi a ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻopau i kou manawa e kamaʻilio me kekahi i hana hewa iā ʻoe. Manaʻo wau ʻaʻole e pane no ka mea ʻaʻohe mea maikaʻi e hiki mai ana mai ka launa pū ʻana.
3. E nānā ma waho o nā huaʻōlelo ma ka pale
Inā he kamaʻilio maʻalahi kāu ex, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻomaka e uhi i kou hoʻomanaʻo i ka wā i hala. Akā e hoʻi i hope, e nānā iā ʻoe iho a nānā i kā lākou mau hana. Aia kekahi mea hōʻike ua hoʻololi lākou i ke ʻano o kā lākou hana ʻana i kāu mau hoaaloha? ʻAʻole anei lākou e kamaʻilio hou me nā wahine ʻē aʻe me ke kūpono ʻole? Ua aʻo anei lākou e mahalo iā ʻoe?
E nānā i ka hoʻoikaika a me nā hana me nā huaʻōlelo, wahi a Bromley. He maʻalahi nā ʻōlelo. Hōʻike kā lākou hana i ka manaʻo maoli. Mai hoʻoluliluli ʻia e kou manaʻolana. Akā, e hoʻi i hope a mālama i ka ʻike.
4. E hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i nā kikokikona Ex
Ua ʻike mākou, i ka wā i hoʻopaʻa ʻia ai kāu ex texts, e hoʻomaka ana kou manamana lima a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻōki i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana pehea e pane ai. Makemake ʻoe e puhi piha i kā lākou kelepona, akā ma kahi o ka luaʻi kikokikona i nā mea āpau āu i hoʻopiha ai no nā mahina ʻehā i hala iho nei, e kali i kekona, e hanu hohonu a ...
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Pehea e hoʻomaka ai ke kamaʻilio-a me ka nui o nā kikokikona i hoʻouna ʻia-hiki ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi manaʻo maikaʻi aʻe i kahi e hele ai, wahi a Sullivan. ʻO ka hāʻawi ʻana i kāu ex i manawa e hoʻopiha ai i ka leo ʻino ma kā lākou pale me nā leka hou aku paha ka mea āu e pono ai e ʻike i ko lākou manaʻo.
E ʻae i kāu ex e alakaʻi i ke kamaʻilio, hoʻomau ʻo Sullivan. Ma ia ala hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kahi e hele ai a me ke kumu o ia mea.
5. Mai Manaʻo ʻOiaʻiʻo inā ʻaʻole ia e lawelawe iā ʻoe
He kanaka ʻoluʻolu ʻoe, a ua maʻa ʻoe e hoʻokipa i nā mea ʻē aʻe ma mua o kou mālama ʻana iā ʻoe iho. Ke hele mai kahi ex a ʻōlelo kou puʻuwai iā ʻoe e holo, mai manaʻo ʻoe e hoʻihoʻi i ka leka i mea e lilo ai i kanaka maikaʻi.
Inā ʻo kāu pahuhopu e 'hoʻopau a hoʻomau me ke aloha,' a laila ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e pane, wahi a Bromley. I kekahi manawa hiki i nā pilina i kahi pae paʻa, a maikaʻi kēlā. Inā ʻeha ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu ex, a ʻaʻohe ou kūlana extenuating, e like me nā keiki, a laila hoʻohanohano iā ʻoe iho ʻaʻole e pane inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake.
E hoʻomanaʻo ʻaʻole paha ʻoe i hele mua ma ia pilina—a i ʻole mau loa me kou ex—akā, hana ʻoe iā ʻoe iho. Inā ʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa e hiki iā ʻoe ke hana no kou olakino noʻonoʻo, ʻo ia ka swipe hema ma ko lākou inoa a kaomi i ka holoi, loaʻa iā ʻoe kā mākou kākoʻo piha.
PILI: ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻōki i ka hiamoe me kaʻu Ex. Pono au e ʻoki?
