E ʻae: Ua hoʻololi ʻoe a me kāu hoa hana i ka ʻōlelo hoʻomāinoino ma mua o ke kamaʻilio uluna, ʻaʻole ʻoe i hāʻawi i kekahi o kāu teddies lacy i loko. makahiki a ua hooki ʻoe i ka hoʻohana ʻana i kāu huaʻōlelo code i nā makahiki i hala aku nei. (No ka moʻolelo, he pomegerane.) Loaʻa iā mākou, ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻohewa. I kekahi manawa, hoʻopau ke aloha. ʻO ia ke kumu i paʻi ai mākou i ka loea wahine ʻo Cassandra Corrado, he kumu aʻo wahine kūʻokoʻa i aʻo ʻia ma ka Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health a i kēia manawa he Pleasure Professional ma San Francisco-based sex-ed platform. O.Kula , no nā ala e kamaʻilio ai i kāu hoa pili e hoʻoikaika hou i kou ola aloha. Eia kāna ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻekolu no ka wehe ʻana i kāu S.O. e pili ana i ka hoʻonui ʻana i kāu pāʻani moe kolohe.
Hinterhaus Productions/Getty Images1. E lawe mai i ke kama'ilio ma waho o ka lumi moe
ʻO ka manaʻo helu hoʻokahi a Corrado: Mai lawe i kou hauʻoli i loko o ka lumi moe. ʻO ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i ka makemake i nā mea hou i ka moekolohe hiki ke lilo i kamaʻilio hoihoi, akā hiki ke lilo i kamaʻilio palupalu, wahi a Corrado. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana iā ia ʻoiai ʻaʻole ia e hāʻawi i ka poʻe i ka manawa a i ʻole ka manawa e noʻonoʻo ai i ko lākou manaʻo no nā mea. ʻAe, e like me ka hoʻowalewale ʻana i ka lawe ʻana i kahi convo i loko o kahi āu e moe ai, ʻaʻole nui. Akā, makemake ʻo Corrado e ʻimi i kahi ʻāpana kū ʻole kahi e ʻoluʻolu ai nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua (ʻaʻole e haʻi ʻia, ua ʻaʻahu piha ʻia). Inā paha e hele pū ana kēlā a puni ke kaiāulu a i ʻole e ʻimi ana i kahi kihi mālie o kāu hale kūʻai kofe punahele, e hoʻomaopopo pono ʻaʻole ʻoe ma lalo o nā uhi ke hoʻopuka ʻoe i kou huhū me ke kūlana o kēia manawa.
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Hoʻokahi2. E hōʻemi i kāu makemake
A ma kēlā memo, e mākaukau e kūkākūkā i kāu mau pahuhopu a me kāu makemake maoli mai ke kamaʻilio ʻana a me kou ola aloha. Aia nā ʻike hou a i ʻole nā kūlana āu e makemake ai? A i ʻole nā hāmeʻa hou āu e makemake ai e lawe i loko o ka lumi moe—e like me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i kahi hoʻokahi mea lomilomi liʻiliʻi a lubricant pu? Manaʻo ʻo Corrado iā ʻoe a me kāu hoa e lawe kaʻawale i nā nīnau pili pili pūnaewele e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i nā mea āu e makemake ai e hoʻokō me ka convo. Hāʻawi lākou iā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka nui o nā mea like ʻole āu e makemake ai, a laila e ʻike wale ʻoe e pili ana i nā mea āu i hoʻokūkū maikaʻi ai me kāu hoa, kākau ʻo Corrado. Ma ia ala, ʻo ʻoe a me kāu S.O. ke hoʻomaka nei mai kahi ʻike, ma mua o ka hele ʻana i ka convo me ka ʻike ʻole i ka makemake o kekahi. (FYI: Ua kuhikuhi ʻo ia, akā naʻe, ʻo ka hapa nui o nā nīnau e hana i nā manaʻo e pili ana i ke ʻano o nā hoa pili a no laila ʻaʻole ia he trans-inclusive.)
Paul Bradbury/Getty Images3. E ho'āʻo e nīnau pololei a me ka ʻole
ʻO ka hope, hōʻike ʻo Corrado ʻelua mau ala e hāpai ai i ke kumuhana: pololei (e like me hey, makemake ʻoe i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i ka wā moe? e pili ana i kahi kūlana sexy āu e makemake ai e hoʻāʻo a nīnau i ka manaʻo o kāu hoa pili ia mea). Hiki nō hoʻi iā ʻoe ke hoʻāʻo e hōʻike i nā mea ʻala i ka wā o kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni ʻoniʻoni. ʻOiai ʻaʻole hewa kekahi ala, manaʻo ʻo Corrado he ala maikaʻi loa ia e hoʻomaka ai: E ʻae iā ʻoe e wehe i ke kamaʻilio a noʻonoʻo i ka manaʻo o kāu hoa ma mua o kou wehe ʻana iā ʻoe iho iā lākou, kākau ʻo ia. A inā ʻaʻole ia e hana, ke hoʻokokoke nei kāu koho palekana-palekana i ke kumuhana poʻo. Manaʻo wau e loaʻa iā mākou ka flamin 'wela, hoʻoulu lauoho, oh-my-god-good sex, a ʻaʻole mākou. Manaʻo wau e hoʻololi kākou i kēlā, no laila e kamaʻilio kākou no ia mea, he wahi maikaʻi ia e hoʻomaka ai.
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